I've had that issue with the nuts springing back after being torqued down. I tried using thicker washers to see if the nut was just bottoming out, but the thicker washers made no difference. Make sure you apply oil, grease or locktite to the threads before you torque the bolts, and that's all you can do.
The reason the nut is twisting and then returning is because the cylinder stud is twisting. If you've torqued to the upper torque spec, then you'll have plenty of clamping force on that bolt. I think each one of those nuts exerts around 5000 pounds of force, so you really don't need to worry about not getting that last foot pound of torque. I did not experience any issues with the nut springback that I dealt with.
Torquing your head bolts down really won't have an impact on oil burning if the bolts are already torqued close to spec. Oil leakage at the head gasket will go to the outside of the engine and manifest itself as leakage coming from between the jugs and the head. If you really are burning oil in your engine, then it is coming from the rings or the valves. Not from a leaking head gasket.
Can you post pics of your plugs? Or, as "andre andre ariba" said, let us know if the plugs are wet and oily or dry and sooty.
Camelman