alright. fixed. I knew the new harness and new switches and new and new and new was't the issue.........user error. after more wire swapping I could get all various blinkers blinking, combinations etc but I never could get the rear right blinker to blink. obviously shorted it. started unscrewing the bracket bolt and there it was, I ran the wire too close to the bolt and it got caught in the threads and spliced open and was shorting to ground. now all is well with my mother blinking blinky blinkers. waste of a $16 flasher relay though...
lesson learned, it does not matter how brand new anything is, if you don't put it together properly it ain't gon work. I am relieved to know my headlight bucket wiring skills are ok though. that rats nest is stressful enough.
THANKS for every ones help and insight
I STILL need to sort out this front brake switch though. one battle down though!