ok, this is starting to make sense. You put a fatter tire on than stock. The rim is still orig, so you get 'swish', which is dangerous. You add air, and that helps rigidity, but that's treating the symptom and not the disease, and there are diminishing returns.. Plus it'll feel like a basketball. Not good.
PSI determinations have everything to do with how much air a tire needs to keep the weight of the bike up.
Think of it like this. PSI is literally how many pounds a sq/in of your tire can hold up. i.e. :if you had 6 sq" of tire contacting the groun,d inflated to 25psi, it would support 150 lbs.
SO, a larger tire (having more surface area) on the same bike would actually require LESS air than the original skinny ones to feel right. BUT, having not changed rims, you add side to side 'swish', and jacked the air pressure to overcome that..
You have 2 problems, and you're moving away from the solution in both directions. Either go back to original size tires, or get custom wheels.