Topic: Yet another update on my Dad and the latest happenings

[bill440cars]

 Well, my Dad is 88 now (16Jul). He doesn' t realize alot of things now days. Been abit contrary when it comes to eating and taking his meds. When he was in the hospital to get a pacemaker put in, My brother's daughter showed up "to see Grandpa and sure ACTED LIKE she was so comcerned about him and all. I WANTED to believe her about she really wanted to be a part of the family and such. I was skeptical though, cause sheIS my brother's daughter. She claimed that she never was really close to him. Anyway, so time went on with her texting me on how's Grandpa? Then, a couple of weeks went by and nothing. So, I decided to text her and let her know that he was still doing fine. She thanked me and a little more time went by. Then, last friday, we needed to go to Conway Ar. For a few hours and next thing I knew, the doorbell rang. It was a deputy sheriff. It seems a call was made, about the welfare of my Dad. The caller said that he hadn't eaten in 3days or so and not been given his meds too.  Thing is,  he HAD gotten up and had hos meds and eaten. Then he went back to bed. So, there is no doubt who called them. But, it didn't work. Then, today, we were headed out and I got a call from "Protective Services., again it was about my Dad. Only alot more detail. They told about the things for about 5yrs and how he wasn't fed or given his meds and such. And I told that lady alot of the actual truth of that time. So now, we will get a visit from this lady tomorrow. I called the Sheriff's office and happened to talk to a deputy who was, at one time, the Sheriff and my Dad had worked for him as a Reserve Deputy Commander. and knew my Dad real well. Also, he told me that he had seen my Dad, right after David and Jan had put him in that nursing home and when he talked to my Dad, my Dad told him that he did not want David to have ANYTHING to do with taking care of him. And he said my Dad was VERY MAD!!! Then he told me that if any of them even come on the property, call 911!!!  So, that is where we are now. More, wjen I have it.

[bill440cars]

Well, the lady from Adult Protective Services just left. Sje was NOT HAPPY with the alligations that were made. She said that it was obvious that Dad was well cared for and appologized to me for our inconvenience. Said she'd have to make one more trip, but I had absolutely nothing to worry about.

[Bailgang]

Wow I'm so sorry to hear that you have to put up with all this BS from your brother and his family but I applaud you for standing your ground and doing the very best to take care of your dad.

[Retro Rocket]

Seems like some legal action is needed, their history should crucify them...

[LesterPiglet]

I'm really sorry for your grief Bill. I have no concept of how the system works over there but if it's anything like here I don't want to be put into a care home.
I hope things get better for you and your dad.
Live  long and prosper.....and die gracefully.

[bill440cars]

      Well folks, things are on the upturn now, at least somewhat. I haven't heard anything else from the Sheriff's Dept or the Adult Protective Services. My Dad's attitude and behavior was kinda up and down for a few days and then, about a week ago (sorry I didn't let you all know right away), suddenly seemed like he was coming out of it and started acting more like hisself. I have no idea what it was, that caused the change. I just know that he had an appointment with the Pediatrist and I had had to reschedule a couple of times, for various reasons. Then, we actually Made this appointment and he sort of started acting more like his old self. I mean, he stayed up longer, actually got into an actual conversation and was talking to where I could understand him pretty much. He HAD gotten to where he was kinda mumbling, previously. So, he was slowly im[proving and then, for Christmas Eve, we went to some very close friends in Greenwood Arkansas, to exchange some gifts, have Supper with them and spend some time visiting. Dad was participating and when we headed back, I stopped off at the Love's Truck Stop, at One of the Morrilton Exits off of I-40 to make a Pit Stop for everyone. When my Dad and I came out of the Rest Room, He started over toward the aisle where the chips were. I asked him why he was going that way, we needed to go the other way, to go out to the van. He told me that there was something over there that he wanted. So, I thought, "Okay, wonder what it is" and he picked up a bag of chips and commented that those might be alright. So then, everyone else, got themselves a snack and so I said that I was going over to get me something. well my Dad followed me over there, along with everyone else and when I picked up my Peanut Butter Snickers, he says, "Now That might be pretty good too. So, I got him one as well. We got out to the van and I opened his for him and he really liked that. He was talking and acting so funny and clowning around. His attitude and behavior just really topped off the evening and everyone had such a great time. I just Thank God, for the way Dad was actually getting into things with us. It was Truly Awesome! I just had to share, cause a number of you all, have been there through it all, with me and my Dad.

[kghost]

Glad he's doing better Bill

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[MoMo]

Good to hear Bill, makes for a nice Christmas present doesn't it?...Larry

[754]

Good to hear he is doing well.. Too bad about the problems with your brother and his
Kid, though..
 Hang in there...

[bill440cars]

Glad he's doing better Bill

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Good to hear Bill, makes for a nice Christmas present doesn't it?...Larry

Good to hear he is doing well.. Too bad about the problems with your brother and his
Kid, though..
 Hang in there...

        Thanks guys, yes it does feel good to have him realize more of what's going on. Haven't heard anything out of the "The Crew" lately. At least the Adult Protection Services Lady And The Local Sheriff's Dept KNOWS that they are full of it and are just trying to cause trouble. And my Dad being more "With It", IS quite the Christmas Present alright. Just can't get much better than that.  And, I have to say that the support I have gotten from you all, sure helps me to "Hang in there". Thank you ALL!   

[faux fiddy]

One of my brothers always instigated trouble, called those dhs people once after Dad kicked him out. If dhs would have looked at finances they'd have found he was  welshing out on loans of 30k and that is defined as abusive of elderly.

Last time Dad and I  were in Minneapolis with brother in a motel he came in at 2 am drinking and causing trouble.  I told him to call the police when he threatened to, so he called and said "I threatened him." When police  came they asked him to leave, visit ended  over 2 days early and dad and I left.

You really get to know people when you  "share" a will with them.  That's what all that kin nastiness is about.

[jtb]

HI Bill.  Glad he's doing better.  How are YOU doing?  Well, I hope.  Say Hi to your Dad and Karla from me,

Happy New year.

John

[bill440cars]

One of my brothers always instigated trouble, called those dhs people once after Dad kicked him out. If dhs would have looked at finances they'd have found he was  welshing out on loans of 30k and that is defined as abusive of elderly.

Last time Dad and I  were in Minneapolis with brother in a motel he came in at 2 am drinking and causing trouble.  I told him to call the police when he threatened to, so he called and said "I threatened him." When police  came they asked him to leave, visit ended  over 2 days early and dad and I left.

You really get to know people when you  "share" a will with them.  That's what all that kin nastiness is about.

Yeah, I hear ya. "Family" (blood related) don't always make the best relations. I have better (what I consider) "Family Members HERE and on a couple of car forums as well. The folks here though, have seen me through some pretty tough times and I am all the better for it.

HI Bill.  Glad he's doing better.  How are YOU doing?  Well, I hope.  Say Hi to your Dad and Karla from me,

Happy New year.

John

    Hey there John.  We are doing well.  How are you all doing? I sure will tell my Dad and Karla that you said hi. I'm sure they will say hi back to you. Thank you John and a Happy New Year to you as well.