I think Ekpent is onto something there. Mid life crisis comes to us in our 50's . It's the time when we notice the light at the at the end of the tunnel and we self evaluate our lives.
Some guys do feel the need to be younger and do the blonde and sports car. Other guys are happy with the wife and the station wagon but still inexplicably feel super restless. Like there is something missing, a nagging lack of control over your current situation which, by the way , you may have been pleased with just last year. That's the problem with a mid life crisis, we don't know what we need or want, we think we just need it to be different somehow. It's a confusing time.
The first thing we want to change will always be the constants, job , wife, location....like this will get us out of the rut. Tons of guys reinvent themselves this way. Not always successfully. Divorce, splitting property, moving to an apartment, sometimes far away from the kids, possibly underemployed or worse. A restart at 50 ish won't be easy.
Then if you get your feet on the ground and some self respect, some younger chickie comes along.
You get to be an over aged Daddy with a girl 20 years your junior who in 5 years will be feeling like you did when all this started. Then everything turns to $hit again.
How many times have we seen this happen to other guys? We condemn the foolishness before it happens to us. Then, at some point , we find ourselves questioning everything, perhaps even sabotaging our own lives , convincing ourselves that we are strong enough to change everything in our lives and it will be better.
I got into this same rut a couple years ago, didn't see it coming, thought mid life crisis was BS or would only happen to weak people...wrong , it happens to the majority of men.
I didn't identify this reality as a problem until last year...when I was certain that it wasn't happening to me. Wrong again, almost too late. First I thought it was the job, then the wife, the climate , then all of it...I was distancing myself from everything so when it was time to start over it wouldn't be that hard. That all made sense to me, kind of, in a twisted sort of way.
Then, I started researching the internet on how to cope with this restlessness and find out if it happens to others my age. DUH. From what I've read the trick seems to be an understanding and supportive wife who is willing to put up will some BS (but not much) and with your commitment , can defuse ,put in perspective, and retain a truthful loving relationship that will be the rock... a foothold to all that matters in your life.
Also from what I've read, This desperateness will subside and be forgotten in a few short years anyways. As long as you both are working together to keep it together, there is greater chance of getting past it easier.
For me , I'm still having a time keeping a handle on it all before I fcuk everything up.
I am hopeful that the comfort of the life I've built will soon overtake the doubt, frustration , self destructive, rise from the ashes to reinvent myself kind of BS thoughts that occupy one's mind.
I thought mid life crisis was BS... Damn , I've been wrong allot. It happens to us.
Doesn't mean you are weak, it just means you are Human.
If you can stay at your job for another 5 years , the time may blow past you like a summer breeze.
