Their is nothing right about this
With "traditional marriage" divorce rates hovering at 50% it might just save the institution.
Change happens...you can jump aboard and accept it, stand aside and ignore it, or try to stop it and get run over.
You make valid points, srust. And like you and others, I personally don't care. I don't support it personally, but am quite indifferent to it being legalized as it won't change my marriage or my beliefs.
However, given that well over 60% of the country believe the country is "heading in the wrong direction" and this constitutes the social attitude, one could easily argue that a "change" in marriage laws is not well-received or productive. Nor, will it likely reverse the course of a higher divorce rate.
"Change" does not imply or insure
progress. That's a misnomer and a stretch. I give you 4 quarters for a paper dollar. Where's the "improvement"?
Mick7504 makes a great point and I side with him. But to believe that "change" must be accepted is not a healthy attitude
unless the "change" actually improves a bad situation.
It would be far smoother in my opinion for "traditionalists" to accept this new legal provision if the Supreme Court would actually render a legal verdict. That is their job afterall. In so doing, the Congress could then pass and ratify a constitutional amendment and the issue be done. Until then, polarized views will prevent our society for welcoming or tolerating any changes to a centuries old tradition that has more to do with theological meanings than with financial ones.
To the OP's point though, if individual states vote for provisions to exclude or allow certain social or legislative action, then those provisions should be honored and respected by higher courts. Afterall, if it is the will of the people within a state, then it should be respected. Just as you cite it is "the will of the people" for marriage to redefined to allow heterosexual or homosexual marriages. And I respect that and am completely okay with it.
My paltry opinion-