a discussion about sexual abuse (many comments have been deleted by other posters but i'm gonna leave this portion of my own post up for what i hope to be educational purposes)...since my mom is a juvenile probation officer for longer than i've been alive, since two of my foster sisters were sexually abused before they came to us, and since i've taken a few psych classes, i think i can shed a
little light.
adolescents and teens are taught to respect elders and for the most part they do. even if they don't, they often don't have the courage to disagree or tell someone far older than them to fvck off (especially in this uncomfortable situation). if they do, they can often be met with hostility or simply brute force... these are often times impossible defenses for someone smaller and younger. yes, a 14 year old can sense or KNOW that something is wrong w/ what is happening... it DOES NOT mean that they have the ability or strong will to act against it. there is nothing wrong w/ this either, it simply means that they are an average 14 year old with average fears and insecurities that will not allow them to protect themselves.
i was lucky enough to enjoy my first sexual encounter w/ the person of my choice at the age of 16 (my 16th bday as a matter of fact
)... up until that point, i had never done anything, including masturbation, and i had no idea what was to happen. sure, they tell you what they want to tell you in sex ed. class but nothing, NOTHING, prepares you for the actual first time occurrence.
