First, the starter relay coil is not polarized, 12V on it regardless of which wire is positive will operate it just fine.'
Also:
- A 30A fuse is excessive. 30A will damage the wire gauge (between 18 andd 16ga) on an original harness (and even homebrew wiring is mostly 16ga or even 18ga wire) and the bike does not use that much power - the original main fuse was 15A. There is some sense in having a sub fuse (powered from the main fuse) for lighting, a failing headlight can cause a momentary hard short as the filament falls apart, blowing the fuse. Losing lighting at speed is not great, but losing ignition simultaneously could be a lot worse.
- The original starter button allowed both hands on the bars when starting, safer than one handed if the bike happens to be in gear (and you removed the safety circuit). I see you weighed the risks, but I would try to use the switchpod starter button. I have seen bikes with the automotive keyswitch though and they seemed fine, owners undamaged (although damaged owners might not be riding any more?).
- I recommend including a kill switch - the one on the switchpod is ideal but I don't know if you're using them. Strange things happen, and being able to cut ignition power without taking a hand off the bars is useful when the shinola hits the fan. The OEM one just cuts coil power, so you would still have lights if you needed to use it at night.