OK , changed rockers and shafts, set at 3 and 4 thou, as Hondaman suggested, to let it lube a bit better.
it has quietened right down sounds very nice. big load off my mind. I almost pulled the little bolts out if the shafts, but the big long bolt on one felt like it was stripped, so I left them in.
I looked at my oil guage, I am thinking when hot at idle it may have been around 10 psi, if it is accurate, so it seems low but is getting oil , I hope. I have Rotella 5-40 in it, and it seemed quieter as son as I changed to that a few months ago.
Looks like I will get thru the season , but will keep an eye and ear on things .