Not sure if this will help, but I get in trouble when I use the wrong washer (too thick) under the bearing, at the bottom of the stem. This results in too few threads on top.
AND the factory, chrome fork ears (if you use them) will rattle up and down because the top and bottom of the tree are now too far apart....... if you are not using the fork ears, just put a thinwasher on top.
The kits usually come with two washers, that will fit the bottom. I keep all the WRONG ones, zip tied together, in a drawer. Helps me remember my mistakes, next year time!