If the m unit is showing that it's working then it most likely wiring or something else. Nothing needs to be wired into the kill input. Maybe you can use a volt meter and test if it's actually killing the ignition when you double tap the start button, I'm stumped too? Perhaps a drawn out wiring diagram it'd be easier to help figure out. Also in the app there is a help section where you can chat with support, that might help.
Oil and neutral light has all been covered before and a search will yield a lot of good threads. Again, assuming the indicator lights are good, it is almost always wiring like a common worn out ground wire for the neutral light. Sounds like it's time to get out the volt meter and start ruling things out.