It's going back together, I noticed the spanner wrench for the neck bearing wasn't in the tool bag that I bought. One Honda wrench is too big, one is too small. When I tightened the top nut, it seemed to bind things up a little. I loosened everything back up and will try again after I move snow.
I myself noticed a few times that it takes a couple good hits from below with a correct size bearing/seal driver to be sure the lower outer race is completely seated inside the frame;I found I needed to work harder to adjust the bearings if I didn't 'seat' the lower race.
I prefer borrowing/using a threaded rod-type tool with stepped-round collars on it to tighten both the races(at the same time)equally all the way down until seated,but I don't own one of those tools.
I personally tighten a completely set-up pair of triples with fresh tapered bearings by only installing just both fork legs(w/o wheel,handlebars,axle and fender,etc.)and using the weight of them to see how far I can tighten the spanner nut by judging how the forks fall from center,to both sides,until it feels just right.
I usually check adjustment again after 1000 miles.