1. Is it possible that in switching my fuel this weekend from 87 to 93 i bought fuel with some mystery additive that is causing this plug color?
Yes, quite.
Higher octane gasoline does not make more power in these old non-computer controlled engines. You only need enough octane to prevent detonation and preignition while the spark is advanced to make peak power. Higher compression ratios require a higher octane and/or retarded spark to prevent preignition with marginal octane ratings. Today's higher octane fuels are blended with extra additives that will leave deposits in engines that don't have the compression to require these fuels. It is possible that your white electrode deposits are artifacts of the fuel you are using.
Octane ratings measure a gasoline's ability to resist engine knock, a rattling or pinging sound that results from premature ignition of the compressed fuel-air mixture in one or more cylinders. It is not a rating of energy content. Most gas stations in the US offer three octane grades: regular (usually 87 octane), mid-grade (usually 89 octane) and premium (usually 92 or 93) depending on the state where purchased.
See: http://www.repairfaq.org/filipg/AUTO/F_Gasoline6.html For more on fuel ratings.
2. Will i get more symptoms than just plug color if i am so lean that i am doing engine damage.
Absolutely, detonation is quite audible as is pinging under load. Check out:
http://www.dansmc.com/Spark_Plugs/Spark_Plugs_catalog.htmlfor plug indications of pre-ignition and lean mixtures. This was produced by NGK who knows quite a bit about spark plugs and how to read them for mixtures and proper heat ranges.
3. if you look around the web, people don't agree as to where on the plug they are pulling their readings -some, the tip of the electrode, some, cutting the treads and reading the base of the electrode, others, the porcelain insulator, the base ring of the plug, or finally, the ground-strap electrode. What part do you use to judge color.
The mixture and heat range of the plug are interactive factors. If you look at a cross section of a spark plug, you'll note that the length of the insulator varies with the heat range. This is where heat is carried away.
http://www.ngksparkplugs.com/techinfo/spark_plugs/overviewp2.asp?nav=31000&country=US Reading the plugs for mixture and heat range is done at the insulator because the heat for mixture and heat range should be high enough to burn away deposits so the plug will be self cleaning.
If your plugs aren't showing signs of preignition, you can't hear any knocking or pinging under load, and the plug insulato, particularly near the tip, is an agreeable color, ride on and be happy. It's up to you as to whether you want to waste your money on higher octane rated fuel than you actually need. If your CR is still less than 9.5 to 1, US 87 octane is all you should need.
Cheers,