Author Topic: My Dad's Situation, "At Rehab" UPDATE! (Read 107794 times)

bill440cars · « **Reply #675 on:** September 23, 2008, 08:06:58 PM »

Well, about 11:45 or so, I get a phone call from the nursing home. it seems my Dad ate lunch, shortly after that, he has some pain in his chest, throws up big time and the pain is pretty intense. They call me about nitrogylceren (spelling?) capsules and I okay it (if they have to give the 3rd one, they call the ambulance. I get there and he's already had 2 of the 3 capsules. He's holding his chest, begging for them to stop the pain (over and over). Now, my Dad just isn't one to go on about something like that, without a reason.

Got him to the hospital, ran the usual tests. Meanwhile Dad complains about some pain in his jaw! Now, I know that the pain in the jaw or right arm (I think) ,is a good sign of heart attack and I am really worried and trying to prepare myself for the worse!

Turns out that his heart is okay, his anurism (spelling?), his gall bladder, and everything else is okay. Also, no signs of the pneumonia that he was just recently in the hospital for. It was suspected that he had a hietal (spelling, again?) hernia, while at the hospital previously at Morrilton, but were afraid to put him to slrrp because of his condition (he might not wake up). And that is what they think happened today, that he had a restriction in his esaphagus and things backed up which caused the intense pain and throwing up. We spent the last half of the day at the hospital and then I was able to get him out of there. Seems like he's more and more secure about what we've done and he's ready to move on.

I Thank God that he's okay and able to know that he can depend on me to see that he's taken care of.

HondaMan · « **Reply #676 on:** September 23, 2008, 08:46:09 PM »

Wow, Bill! I'll be lifting you both up.
Wewent thru something like this with my wife's foster mom, too. It's tough.
But, God is tougher. So are you, my friend!

bill440cars · « **Reply #677 on:** September 23, 2008, 09:05:36 PM »

Quote from: HondaMan on September 23, 2008, 08:46:09 PM

Wow, Bill! I'll be lifting you both up.
Wewent thru something like this with my wife's foster mom, too. It's tough.
But, God is tougher. So are you, my friend!

Thank you Mark, Sure feel like I need it. I feel for you (and anyone else) for having to go through times like that. I do have faith in God and I know that he won't put any more on you than you can handle, but sometimes it seems like he must be thinking I'm someone else. Just when I think I can't take any more, something else happens either with my Dad's condition or from those 2 (S & S).

I know that God is tough, I've been tougher than I thought I could be, but it's been a real struggle and there have been times that I thought I was going to break. But, I've been Praying and hanging in there because my Dad needs me to be there for him. I'm just so tired and I've been stretched so far.

I need to go.

Sam Green Racing · « **Reply #678 on:** September 23, 2008, 09:39:40 PM »

Keep ya chin up Billy, we're all in there with you.

Sam.

jtb · « **Reply #679 on:** September 24, 2008, 04:17:53 AM »

Bill, It's not always easy, but you've got your faith, and the support of your friends. In every family, there is one person who these kind of things out of love, and because it's the right thing to do. Years ago, whenever I went back to KC for vacations to visit my Mother, I always spent my time doing things which needed doing. (One year I painted her house, and I remember my brother-in-law, standing on the ground, sipping tea, and telling me how glad he was that I was on the ladder in the heat working) Anyway, she always told me in a half joking manner, "You're a good boy, Sonny". Well, Bill, you're the "Good boy, Sonny", and I applaud your efforts, dedication to and love for your Dad. We're all pulling for you Bill.

JOhn

bill440cars · « **Reply #680 on:** September 24, 2008, 05:15:14 AM »

Sam, John and all who have supported and encourage me, Thank you for that and know that I'm still in there for my Dad. ever so often, my Dad will say things like, " I just don't understand why he's doing this" or "Do I have everything in your name? I don't want to him to have ANYTHING" and "He's living in MY house, because I'M paying for it and I want him out!" I just reassure him and let him know that I've carried things out, just as he wished.

Take care, Bill

UnCrash · « **Reply #681 on:** September 24, 2008, 05:33:15 AM »

You're a good man Bill, hang tough.

bill440cars · « **Reply #682 on:** September 24, 2008, 10:54:13 AM »

Quote from: UnCrash on September 24, 2008, 05:33:15 AM

You're a good man Bill, hang tough.

Thank you, I'm really trying hang tough, I really am. Sometimes though, I get really tires and strung out and the things just keep on happening and we've just go to have some relief, you know? I've had a bit of rest and, even though I've just returned from about 2 1/2 hours at the State Fair with my Daughter, I'm still going and looking to get some more things done today. Haven't been to see my Dad today (yet) but will be going soon. Went by last night, to see my Dad (just to actually check and see that he's okay) and he was sleeping, I wasn't going to wake him. Just had to kinda touch base and see for myself that he was fine and he opened his eyes just as I was leaving. He smiled and I told him I just stopped by to make sure he was fine before I went home. He thanked me and said, "Be careful."

medic09 · « **Reply #683 on:** September 24, 2008, 11:26:21 AM »

I'm sorry to hear about this latest obstacle, Bill. I know it can be very discouraging and demoralizing for your dad and you, both. I pray that God give you clarity and strength and reliance on Him. Try reading some Psalms. King David knew a thing or two about being tested in life, and having to pick himself up again and again.

Remember to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF and your family. No guilt. It is how the world works. When we have a sick pregnant woman, everyone worries about the baby. We, in fact, take care of mom. By doing so, the baby benefits. Otherwise, everyone suffers. So, too, with you all. You are caregivers. If you are healthy and rested, the care you provide and the decisions you make will be far better. So, NO GUILT, take care of yourself dear friend.

May God's love and support surround and uplift you.

my78k · « **Reply #684 on:** September 24, 2008, 11:35:08 AM »

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Well Put Medic

bill440cars · « **Reply #685 on:** September 24, 2008, 12:26:14 PM »

Quote from: medic09 on September 24, 2008, 11:26:21 AM

I'm sorry to hear about this latest obstacle, Bill. I know it can be very discouraging and demoralizing for your dad and you, both. I pray that God give you clarity and strength and reliance on Him. Try reading some Psalms. King David knew a thing or two about being tested in life, and having to pick himself up again and again.

Remember to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF and your family. No guilt. It is how the world works. When we have a sick pregnant woman, everyone worries about the baby. We, in fact, take care of mom. By doing so, the baby benefits. Otherwise, everyone suffers. So, too, with you all. You are caregivers. If you are healthy and rested, the care you provide and the decisions you make will be far better. So, NO GUILT, take care of yourself dear friend.

May God's love and support surround and uplift you.

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Thank you for that. It is starting to look like that, after all that's been done, he might pass on without getting to have some peaceful times here on this earth. Now, I Do know that he would be far better off in Heaven, being human, I'm hoping to give him some peaceful times while he's still here, you know? I'll have to admit that I haven't read my Bible much lately and I'm ashamed about that.

I've just been coming, going, doing, taking care of, trying to catch up on things here (things that are getting behind in the mean time) and catching as much rest as possible. You've heard the saying, "If it's not one thing, it's another"? Well, that's the way it's been going here, for some time now. Medic, I really Have to stop, sit down, pick my Bible up and READ. One thing that came out of the Emergency run to the Hospital yesterday, I found out that most everything else ( including the anyuriusm (spelling) ) is doing okay and that is good. Thank you for the reminder.

medic09 · « **Reply #686 on:** September 24, 2008, 12:50:43 PM »

Cast upon God your burden, and He will sustain you.

Tehillim/Psalms 55:23

I'm only reminding you because I know you already believe and practice that.

bill440cars · « **Reply #687 on:** September 24, 2008, 03:37:13 PM »

Quote from: medic09 on September 24, 2008, 12:50:43 PM

Cast upon God your burden, and He will sustain you.

Tehillim/Psalms 55:23

I'm only reminding you because I know you already believe and practice that.

I know that medic and I sure do appreciate it too. Sometimes we lose sight of things and have to be "jogged a bit", to get back in track.

What about Psalms37:34
Wait on the Lord, and keep his way, and he shall exalt thee to inherit the land: when the wicked are cut off, thou shall see it.

Yeah, you are so right, I need to spend more time in the Bible and will find alot of passages that will give good guidance as well.

Thank you again, you are a good motivator.

Take care, Bill

oldbiker · « **Reply #688 on:** September 25, 2008, 12:27:30 AM »

Bill, I've never commented on this thread before but, can I just remind you to look after your own health as you will be little use to your Dad or family if you crack up.
My thoughts and best wishes are always with you, oldbiker.

troppo · « **Reply #689 on:** September 25, 2008, 04:19:39 AM »

G`day bill
While i`m not a devout christian or a bible reading type, i try to do right, i believe that is the basic tenet of the bible.
You have your faith and it has sustained you all through this madness, you really should put aside half an hour or so where you can read your bible with strict orders to all and sundry that there is to be no interuptions unless its an emergency. Its clear you get a boost from reading it and sometimes a boost is all we need to raise ourselves out of a depression the world has dumped us in.
Take care of yourself mate, your needed here by many for a while yet.
Cheers
Troppo

bill440cars · « **Reply #690 on:** September 25, 2008, 09:02:21 PM »

Quote from: oldbiker on September 25, 2008, 12:27:30 AM

Bill, I've never commented on this thread before but, can I just remind you to look after your own health as you will be little use to your Dad or family if you crack up.
My thoughts and best wishes are always with you, oldbiker.

oldbiker, I definitely appreciate the the thoughts, best wishes and the concern.

I'm trying to take care of myself, as I can get the time. Everytime I turn around, I've got thoughts and facts just whirling around in my head and, now and then, something just seems to stand out and I check on what ever it is (a good example would be the times that all of a sudden I thought I should go to the Court House there and found (on 2 occasions) that a petition for Guardianship had been filed. My Wife says that it was the Holy Spirit lending a guiding hand. Gotta tell you, everytime, I had a notion like that, there was something to it.

All the support (whether once or numerous times) has been incredible and gladly accepted. I hope no one will think that I would feel bothered by their post because No One has given me Any reason to have ill feelings about anything posted and I doubt that any one would.

At the end of the day, I've GOT to feel like I've done my very best to do my Dad's biding. I've GOT to feel like I'm giving my Dad more relief from stress, more ability to relax and be better able to enjoy what time he has left on this earth.

bill440cars · « **Reply #691 on:** September 25, 2008, 09:17:45 PM »

Quote from: troppo on September 25, 2008, 04:19:39 AM

G`day bill
While i`m not a devout christian or a bible reading type, i try to do right, i believe that is the basic tenet of the bible.
You have your faith and it has sustained you all through this madness, you really should put aside half an hour or so where you can read your bible with strict orders to all and sundry that there is to be no interuptions unless its an emergency. Its clear you get a boost from reading it and sometimes a boost is all we need to raise ourselves out of a depression the world has dumped us in.
Take care of yourself mate, your needed here by many for a while yet.
Cheers
Troppo

Thank you for that Troppo.

bill440cars · « **Reply #692 on:** September 26, 2008, 04:45:31 PM »

Don't remember if I told it or not but, earlier this year as asked by my Dad, I had the ownership of my Dad's properties changed as per his instructions. I took a little while for the change to be posted online, my Dad's place (where he lived) was changed a bit back (THAT one is in my name only ) and the one where S & S live, changed today (it is listed as Walter H. or William J. Van Pelt and in the wording that means it belongs to the other one, when one dies). Now, the male side of the S & S team, can't operate a PC except for games. The female side of the team seems to be able to do some things with the PC. I wish she would happen to find this inf and realize that the main piece of property is already spoken for and the one they live on (so far) is in Dad's name & Mine! Matter of fact, I think they're going to be a bit set back, when they realize ALL that Dad and I have managed to accomplish.

Dad is SO intent to have David get nothing, that he will ask me off and on if he has everything in MY name or not. Then he will say that we need to do something in writing to make sure that David gets nothing. Periodically, I will go over everything that we have done and make sure he knows that he has done a new will to trash the one that they have. I found out that the female S had written herself a check last year (right after Dad went in the hospital) for $7,000. It appears that she got my Dad to sign it, but I promise you that he had no idea what it was for and probably didn't realize how much it was for. He knows about it now, for sure. He still wants to Celebrate, when this is over and SO do we!

bill440cars · « **Reply #693 on:** September 28, 2008, 11:33:55 AM »

Got a Nov 65' issue from Gordon (Ilbikes) yesterday and shared it with my Dad. He really enjoyed THAT, had some things in there that brought back some fond memories. For example: there was a piece on Ariel motorcycles and a good part of it was about the Square Four. Now, there was a time (and I know it well, because I was there and remember most of it myself) when a guy took his Ariel Square Four to another fellow to get it gone through, some chrome plating fne and repainted. Then there was a falling out, just as the bike was ready to be put back together (it was completely apart, engine and all), so the guy loaded it all up and brought it to my Dad. Dad had never seen one before and had NO manuals of any kind on it. So, he turned the guy down over and over again until Dad finally gave in and showed him where to put it. Dad walked by that bike (pile of parts) for several days and finally stopped in front of it and slowly started to check out the parts and began putting them together. After a while (a few days), that bike was back together and running. I don't have a clue what it cost that guy, but my Dad and my Granddad never really charged high prices and I feel like the guy got off easy enough, as far as mt Dad's work was concerned. I hearing a number of stories over and over and also starting to hear some for the first time, and that's cool!

While I've got your attention, I'd like to share that a few months ago, Dad and I were going from our house to his and he got off on the times between him and my Mom. Next thing I knew, I was hearing about how they met, when they met, his first impression of her, the first time he took her for a ride on his motorcycle and such as that.

I had NEVER heard ANY of that before and I thoroughly enjoyed the whole thing. They were married for about 55yrs or so, when she died of Cancer (started in her lungs). They had quite a history together.

Thanks for listening, Bill

kghost · « **Reply #694 on:** September 28, 2008, 12:01:56 PM »

Very cool and Priceless Bill.

bill440cars · « **Reply #695 on:** September 28, 2008, 02:54:05 PM »

Quote from: kghost on September 28, 2008, 12:01:56 PM

Very cool and Priceless Bill.

I thought so too Tim. I'm going to have to dig out some of my old magazines and also some of his photo albums. Seems like someone here had already suggested the photo albums, but didn't seem feasible til now.

fuzzybutt · « **Reply #696 on:** September 30, 2008, 03:30:02 PM »

everything going ok Bill? when we dont hear from you for a couple of days, i start to get concerned about you mate.

bill440cars · « **Reply #697 on:** September 30, 2008, 04:51:34 PM »

Quote from: fuzzybutt on September 30, 2008, 03:30:02 PM

everything going ok Bill? when we dont hear from you for a couple of days, i start to get concerned about you mate.

Yeah fuzzy, things are going pretty good. Dad's seeming to be getting somewhat better. The nursing home is going to start therapy next week, to start working on getting him up and walking.

I am SO up!

My Daughter Karla and I went to see him last night and his bed was empty along with his wheelchair and oxygen machine. Some to find out, one of the nurses brought in a John Wayne movie and they were in a dimly lit room watching that movie (might have been Comancheros, or something like that). When my Dad saw us, he waved his arm for us to come on in and, of course we did. We watched to whole movie with him and the others. It made me think about the Saturday nights and Sundays when we used to watch movies like that (and they weren't that old then).

On the way back to the room, he said that it reminded him of the good old days.

There are times that I do have things I could posted here, but I don't want to burn folks out. I'm probably pretty close now. You see, after the things that I went through last year, I cherish each and every good time along with each bit of progress we accomplish.

I appreciate the concern. Still have no idea when the court date will be.

I'm wanting to get on with it and get this mess behind us and get the rest of the stress off of my Dad's mind so he can totally relax and enjoy life, knowing that THEY are out of his life completely. That's the way HE wants it. That's ALL I've done, is what my Dad wants.

Hope things are well with you too Fuzzy.

Take care, Bill

fuzzybutt · « **Reply #698 on:** September 30, 2008, 05:23:16 PM »

GREAT to hear things are looking up for your dad Bill. our thoughts and prayers are with you

burmashave · « **Reply #699 on:** September 30, 2008, 05:28:53 PM »

Good news is good news. ;-) :-)

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Author Topic: My Dad's Situation, "At Rehab" UPDATE! (Read 107794 times)

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