make sure you have the 5 screws out that hold the two together- four underneath the little round seals under the cam towers, and one above the cam chain tensioner. i use a mallet and a drift of some kind, and knock around a little bit on anything but the fins. you can tap upward on the exhaust spigots, or a little on the intakes. don't go crazy on either, 'cause they can get damaged easily. if it still doesn't break, take a razor blade and cut into the gasket at the corners. you want to be careful not to #$%* up the mating surfaces, but you can safely wedge a sharp screwdriver (or a scraper of some sort... just make sure it's not blount) in a few places and lightly tap. don't go crazy with this or you will scratch it up.
be patient- it wiill come off. just don't tap the fins.