So now it's eleven days later:
My boy is one month old tomorrow
My head and cylinders came back from the machinist (120$) and this evening I did the initial torque. Tomorrow I will loosen (in sequence) and re-torque. No gasket sealer of any kind on the advice of: Several members here, two mechanics, my manual, and Cycle-X.
While at the shop, the parts got a bath in the hot tank and are cleaner than I've ever seen them. Also, a stripped thread got heli-coiled.
Pictures of the assembly tomorrow. Thanks for the advice so far - I am feeling very nervous about the whole thing.
Do you know how it feels when you've come too late into a corner and realize that you're too hot and you're afraid of the brake, but you've gotta hit it and the safety rail is coming up and you MUST lean so you do, but GOD SHE ISN'T GOING TO HOLD!!! F**K!... Well, that's the fear I feel right now only in slow motion.