Topic: Life/Girl Advice, haven't read these before have you?

[bzr]

Just enjoy some 16 year old poon. 

Pretty sure that's illegal...

Do you know what is really sad about this whole stream/topic. Here's a guy who's opened his heart and feelings to virtual strangers, and loads of guys have chipped in and given him some really honest and heart-felt advice, but....................NOT A SINGLE FEMALE MEMBER HAS OFFERED ANYTHING! That's sad. Years ago, they'd have been all over you, cooing and tutting and pressing your head into their warm motherly t.....er, chests. But now? Nada. Not a squeak!
What's happening to this world?

Don't be silly, girls don't exist on the Internet. 

(I have nothing useful to contribute to this thread, unfortunately.)

[Dave-and-his-550]

photo? 

Ha! I've been trying. Would have been fun to have a photo of me and her at the dance lesson, it was an hour lesson, then an hour of just dancing, so we were dressed up for the whole event.

Just enjoy some 16 year old poon. 

You might be surprised, here in Iowa, 16 and I think 15 is actually legal. Technically considered adults. Look it up! I was a little surprised myself. I thought I should at least do that research before a moment comes along in these next few weeks where I'd be wondering, "Wait, am I gonna go to jail for this?!"

I have much the same kind of personality disorder that you have, Dave.  I'm too open with my emotions with women, which has a tendency to make things go down in flames.  I also get more attached more quickly than she does.  I'm working through the problem one step at a time, though 

Ya, I'm somewhat the opposite, I get emotional also when it comes to chicks, but I on the other hand, don't let it out to anybody in real life. So I guess, thats why I post here 

Anyway, when the time comes when she is leaving, I might see if she'd be up for further communication. Oh and Dan, don't think of your personality as a disorder! It's just who you are, your personality, there is nothing disorderly about it!

[mgmuellner]

16?  My advice is get an adult & be glad I'm not her dad.     She's not even done with HS, fully physically developed or mentally a woman yet.  Cant you get someone your own age?

My sis ran away with a kid who was 24, she was 16 - they now have 4 kids & are happy.  On the flip side, she's since been very distant with her family (both physically & mentally) & only recently got her GED. 

I'm 35 (on Thurs) & wouldnt go near anyone in their early 20's (if I were dating) cause they're just kids. 

[Dave-and-his-550]

get someone your own age?

I sure can. Also I should note she and her mother are living with us over the summer, so her and I have had a lot of time together, so far we enjoy each other a lot, I doubt it'll get much more serious, but who knows, I do feel attracted to her a bit more and more. Oh, and to answer your other question, she is fully mature if you catch my drift 

[mgmuellner]

get someone your own age?

I sure can. Also I should note she and her mother are living with us over the summer, so her and I have had a lot of time together, so far we enjoy each other a lot, I doubt it'll get much more serious, but who knows, I do feel attracted to her a bit more and more. Oh, and to answer your other question, she is fully mature if you catch my drift 

There is a trust there then between their family & yours.  IMO, it's completely wrong to take advantage of that trust.  Whether she's not hor not & whether your hormones are pumping doesnt matter - she's still a child.  In my state, you'd likely go to jail, & be a convicted sex felon for doing her.  My brother spent a year in jail for having sex with a girl who was a few mo's short of 18 when he was 19.

[DarkRider]

Simple word...Jailbait....dont chance it man

[Raul CB750K1]

  My brother spent a year in jail for having sex with a girl who was a few mo's short of 18 when he was 19.

It could happen in Spain but I don't know of anybody actually going to jail. Say you date a 15-year-old girl while you are 16. You both can have sex with no legal implications. But as soon as you turn 18, you better wait for her or you will be commiting a crime. One of those laws that are enacted before considering all the different situations.

How did it affect your brother? The time behind bars I mean. Going to jail at 19 for something like that must be something that can affect you forever.

[mkramer1121]

  My brother spent a year in jail for having sex with a girl who was a few mo's short of 18 when he was 19.

It could happen in Spain but I don't know of anybody actually going to jail. Say you date a 15-year-old girl while you are 16. You both can have sex with no legal implications. But as soon as you turn 18, you better wait for her or you will be commiting a crime. One of those laws that are enacted before considering all the different situations.

How did it affect your brother? The time behind bars I mean. Going to jail at 19 for something like that must be something that can affect you forever.

in IL, its something like a 17 yr old can have sex etc as long as the other party is within 3 yrs...i never understood that, a 17 and 20 yr old can have relations, but not a 16 and 19....

[mark]

16?  My advice is get an adult & be glad I'm not her dad.     ....

My thoughts exactly..... at 16 her mom can't be too far past 35 ..... still a sweet young thing by most of our standards.

 

 

[oldfordguy]

The age of consent in Iowa is 16, so I'm with snaferer!  Looking back on my life (and I took a hard look after my heart-attack/brush with death) and almost all the regrets I have are with things (or girls)  I didn't do, not with things I did.

[ColinMc]

The problem def boils down to maturity. Think of all the things you liked when you were 16, the music you listened to, the hobbies you had. I'm sure some of it is the same, but you are a very very very different person than you were at 16. I don't even know you but can promise that is true. Nothing serious can happen from this, her taste in shoes probably changes every week, what about her taste in guys? I'm sure you guys can be great friends, but taking it further than that now would be in poor taste and would violate the trust her family has in you and your family. She is being flirty because that's what she thinks she is supposed to do, not necessarily because she knows what she is doing...I'm not saying she doesn't like you, but there is no way she knows what she wants out of life right now...heck most people never figure that out, but at 16 you are excited about driving, hanging out with friends, going to the mall and whatnot...at 23+ you get excited about cheaper gas prices, tax returns(if you get money back) and so on...although I still love driving 

[mgmuellner]

  My brother spent a year in jail for having sex with a girl who was a few mo's short of 18 when he was 19.

It could happen in Spain but I don't know of anybody actually going to jail. Say you date a 15-year-old girl while you are 16. You both can have sex with no legal implications. But as soon as you turn 18, you better wait for her or you will be commiting a crime. One of those laws that are enacted before considering all the different situations.

How did it affect your brother? The time behind bars I mean. Going to jail at 19 for something like that must be something that can affect you forever.

He's 21 now & has really turned his live around (he had more issues than that in his life).  He's clean, sober - has a decent job which he loves & is more considerate of his life choices.  I've got a lot of faith that this will effect him forever, but in a good way.

[Raul CB750K1]

  My brother spent a year in jail for having sex with a girl who was a few mo's short of 18 when he was 19.

It could happen in Spain but I don't know of anybody actually going to jail. Say you date a 15-year-old girl while you are 16. You both can have sex with no legal implications. But as soon as you turn 18, you better wait for her or you will be commiting a crime. One of those laws that are enacted before considering all the different situations.

How did it affect your brother? The time behind bars I mean. Going to jail at 19 for something like that must be something that can affect you forever.

He's 21 now & has really turned his live around (he had more issues than that in his life).  He's clean, sober - has a decent job which he loves & is more considerate of his life choices.  I've got a lot of faith that this will effect him forever, but in a good way.

Cool. If at least it served to put him back on the right track, it won't be wasted time.

[DammitDan]

heck most people never figure that out, but at 16 you are excited about driving, hanging out with friends, going to the mall and whatnot...at 23+ you get excited about cheaper gas prices, tax returns(if you get money back) and so on...although I still love driving 

That made me laugh, because sadly it is true 

[misterpunch]

Have as much fun you can with as little expectation as you can.  She wouldn't even recognize herself 4 years from now.  having a serious relationship with a 16 year old girl is like trying to piss with a hard on.  Just because you feel you need to doesn't make it any easier.

[Dave-and-his-550]

Have as much fun you can with as little expectation as you can.  She wouldn't even recognize herself 4 years from now.  having a serious relationship with a 16 year old girl is like trying to piss with a hard on.  Just because you feel you need to doesn't make it any easier.

Thanks, I haven't been on in a few days and I'm sittin with shotty wireless in an internet cafe, she really is just a companion or playmate at the moment (I mean playmate in the innocent way) She doesn't have much to do around the house, so I entertain her, she probably likes me, but I'm sure most of you are right, she can change her taste any day of the week, so I should certainly lay back in my expectations, I don't intend to pursue anything sexual with her for sure, that would make things way to awkward around the house, and even though she is legal in my state, I think i'd face some heavy repercussions from her Mother, and mine.

Things would probably be best, and our friendship would stay stronger if we didn't get involved sexually. But, she certainly is attractive enough to consider it sometime in our lives.

Anyway, I gotta jet for now. Will be home on Monday 

[tbpmusic]

I'm an Olde Farte, in my 60's now. Maybe that lends a bit of weight to my advice, maybe not.
I married a girl 10 years younger than me, but was 37 when I did it.

I say - RUN AWAY , as fast as you can !!!!!!!


bill2

[seaweb11]

The general rule for figuring out if the age difference is more than society will allow (and this really works) is "half your age, plus 7"

23÷2 = 11.5, +7 = 18.5

so no, don't do it. No matter how noble your intentons are, someone will get the wrong idea.

Is that the math you work out in prison ......."after the fact"

I kid, I kid

[mrbreeze]

I married my first and only wife in 1976 on her 16th birthday.I was 18 and turned 19 2 weeks later. I was in the Navy and we were just a couple of kids that were madly in love with each other. Jump forward 7 years and 3 kids later.....we divorced and went on to carrying on with our lives. I am now a young 51 years old and have 3 grown children that gave me 4 grand children. We all still get along good and if I had to do it all over.....I wouldn't because I know better now. I am glad I did on the other hand because I have 3 great children that I love with everything I have to give. It sounds confusing because it is confusing!!!(life...I mean). Even if that gal still has feelings for you when she is legal age (18 in most states), I still think it is too young to make the plunge.

[Raul CB750K1]

I kid, I kid

I love that puppet!!! (I guess you are quoting him)

http://mynameisearlkress.com/weblog/triumph01.jpg

[misterpunch]

The general rule for figuring out if the age difference is more than society will allow (and this really works) is "half your age, plus 7"

23÷2 = 11.5, +7 = 18.5

My fiancee is JUST old enough for me according to this equation.  THANK YOU INTERNET FOR JUSTIFYING MY LIFE DECISIONS!

Her mom is already making tons of plans for the wedding and we haven't even set a date yet so I think I'm accepted.

[martino1972]

your young,life is short...make from it what you can..
before you know it ,your married,kids,etc....enjoy it while your young,try to create as many sweet memories as you can......
im happely married now,got a kid,a acreage,an own business...but some days i just wonder off into memory lane,fish up all the sweet things,the heart acke....the drunken nights,the crazy things...
and let me tell ya,memories like that are priceless....