Topic: on a more serious note.....

[martino1972]

while looking for some pictures to put on facebook ,i ran into some pictures of my son in the NICU(neonathal intensive care unit)in edmonton....
they kinda came as a shock to me,up till now i was trying to put those day's as far back in my mind as possible,but now it all came back to me...
it's been 3.5 years since those days,and for a moment i was back in time where life wasent that good...

up to those days life was pretty much stress free,i bought a beatifull acreage,got married and started my own business,life was good...

then in march 25 2005 my son was born and all was good,till that dark monday morning,3 day's later...
he wasen't reacting to anything,so we brought him to the hospital in ponoka..
within 15 minutes they put him in the ambulance and rushed him to red deer,where a crisis team of 12 people worked on him for 4 hours to get him stable enough to be airlifted to edmonton..
i really thought i was gonne loose my son there,all my hopes where in my shoes,they didn't know what happend to em,but it looked pretty grim...

then they airlifted him to edmonton,up till this day when ever i see a stars helicopter fly over,i get goose bumbs...
i followed with my then wife,doing 190km/h all the way..
there they found out that he had sufferd a stroke,and that there was severe brain damage..
my life was over....
they gave us a room in the nicu,so that we would be close for when things would take a turn for the worse,but thank god,that didnt happen..

he stayed in the NICU for a long time,but he recoverd well,and got transferd to the normal icu,and over a peroid of time we could take him home..

then all the hospital visits started,i think we drove a million times to edmonton,red deer etc..
seeing all sorts of specialists...
at first the outcome wasen't that great,he wasen't gonne walk,move his right side of his body and his vision was really bad,right eye didn't work(still doesn't)and they didn't know about his left eye..
other developments where unsure till he would be older..

over the last 3.5 years,my sone proved everybody wrong till a certain point..
he's walking fine,his right side works perfect,etc..
he does have CVI(cornical visiual impairment)what means that the eyes can see,but the part of the brain that supossed to process all that,isnt working good...so far they think he's legally blind,but he does see abit,and surprices me all the time how well he's doing with that...

meanwhile my wife and i split up,due to a series of things,what i won't discuss here,but it's better this way...

so,now i'm back to being alone again,and picked up my life again...
so far i'm doing really good,and am really happy again,life is good..
i'm trying to get to see my son,which i haven't seen him (here and there a few minutes)since august 6 2008,but due to the fact that my ex and i don't get along that well,it's kinda hard going,but i'm not giving up...no way..!!!!

for myself,i enjoy being alone again,although i do miss having a shoulder to lean on or to crawl up to,can't deny that...
my business is picking up real good again(didn't go so well for awhile with me not in the mood)and with the help of some wonderfull people it's all back to normal...

i picked up playing guitar again,and am working hard at getting ready to go on stage in red deer,my goal is to play in the vat in red deer on sunday evenings..

the hurt is gone,and i don't miss it...... i love life and i'm ready for the rest of it,lol...

martino

3 day's old



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my boy now...

[Bob Wessner]

The best to you and your son. I hope you get to see him more. The time with  the kids flies by so fast. Good luck.

[bill440cars]

      Like Bob, I also want to say that I wish you ALL the best, nothing gets next to us like a child with problems (especially medical).
We had some of those problems with our Daughter, starting at 11 months old, but I won't go into that here, this is about you and your son. I do wish you 2 the best.

                                 Take care, Bill  

[PJ]

Prayers for your family bro..
PJ

[edbikerii]

Thanks for posting this Martino.

This afternoon, I was sitting at home, considering blowing off my son's soccer match because it was cold and rainy, and my miserable ex-wife was going to be there.

Then, I read your post.  I got my layers & leather on, pulled out the GoldWing, and got my ass up to the game.  I was glad I did!

Thank you!

[Spikeybike]

very moving marty, i am also one of those dads that would do just about anything for my little guy , that was very uplifting my friend , cheers to you and yours ...

[CaféElite]

Im sorry to hear about your sons condition but glad he is kicking butt w/ improvements. I hurt to think you dont get to spend time w/ him though.

My daughters mom and I split right when she turned two (four now) but I fought tooth and nail to get equal access to her. I have her 50% of the time but its cost me in every way. I pay almost 1k in child support, live in a dingy apartment while her mom lives in a 200k home (midwest so that a could chunk), gave up the whole nice car while she drives and 08, went from being elite at my job to just a joe and have had the two lady friends that I have tried to hook up w/ deny me cause they say I actually have my kid to much. Even w/ that I would pay more, live in a box and be single forever to see my kid...

I hope you and your son get to see more of each other in the future... your time with him is meaningfull and important while your feelings towards his mom are history and pointless.

Good Luck

[tramp]

glad things are getting better
if you want things bad enough, just keep swinging, sooner or later you'll get a hit
hjave more respect for a man that goes down swinging than standing and looking

[Demon67]

Good luck to you and your son'
Bill the demon.

[eldar]

It is just wrong that things like this happen to kids.  They should NEVER have to start life like this. I do not care what religious excuse a person gives, it should not happen. I understand to a small amount to what you experienced. My youngest daughter was born with a hole in her heart. She also had colic. So her stomach would hurt yet because of the hole, she was not supposed to cry very much. For months I spent nights up till 4 am till she was finally exhausted enough to fall asleep. I then had to be to work at 9am. She also was born with 3 pulmonary arteries and so has extra oxygen in her blood. It was very hard but we now have a bond many fathers never have with their daughters. She is doing excellent now.
So we did not spend a lot of time in the hospital, things could have gone the other way. Her heart may have needed to been patch which would have required opening her chest.

I really feel for you in this. I hope you can get more time with your son. A father is EVERY BIT as important as ANY mother. You seem to be getting a bit of luck in your favor, I hope it continues. You need your son as much as he needs you.