Industrial, is your wheel a 16"? They are all insiders / cross 1 on the 16".
17 and 18" are traditional inside / outside cross 2 or 3. And yes sometimes the outsiders need a little forcing, But your thumb ought to be able to do it. Any more than that, needs new spokes like nokrome did.
I'm surprised that a stock gauge spoke would be a problem. I had the heavier ones and could push them in with my hands. They did leave a nick in a relatively unnoticable place in the hole, but i was disappointed.