I somehow did a decent job of teaching my daughter how to play when she was little. I had a couple of records that featured the drum parts clearly enough so you could hear how the simple patterns worked. One was a Booker T best of record, and the other was an Albert Collins record, Iceman. I put the records through a pa system that I use in my studio, but a regular stereo system would work fine too, so that my daughter could play along. As she started to get the patterns right I would mute the record so she could keep time without the record, then un-mute it so she could hear if she fell back into the time correctly. I'm sure there's a jillion ways to start, but I hope this helps.