Hi volume sellers do/did make money and value their time.
And some folks dont like strangers in their home.
Yeah he coulda met , but it does take time..
But.. that probably not why he didnt..
Its probably a few flakey buyers before you could not pull it together to meet on time and save themselves some money..

And then the seller thought.. if you bid on ebay , you expect to pay shipping, and he can pack it easier than driving to meet someone.
Ever run an ad lately.. I had a woman phone about a bike and arrange a time, then near the hour cancel.. then try for the next day, but not show up..

.. never heard back...

I try to give em a 1/2 hour window, if they cant make it..their loss..
Hey, I am starting to remember why I stopped selling on ebay, or hardly try to sell stuff anymore..