Man, you guys just need to stop being so frigging provoking, stop playing 'GOTCHA' with
the posters on the board.
I *know* you dudes have done silly stuff and desperately kept it to yourself.
I sure the heck have! We all do dumb stuff and we usually don't like getting
all public with it.
Let people come on this board and FEEL COMFORTABLE about what they
disclose. If you 'read between the lines' maybe the guy's embarrassed. Let that go,
don't make him feel foolish by challenging his veracity.
I've heard you guys say 'its all in fun' well, to me its 'fun' to let posters decide what they want to disclose, and to look at it and say 'he found something silly and is embarrassed. Heck I've been there.'
Because the board here is EDUCATIONAL, it's reasonable to want to make it clear to others on the board what you think is a likely cause, and you are all adult enough to DO IT DIPLOMATICALLY such as:
"Congratulations, most of the time the real problem is X."
Because the way some of the posters pounce on people ITS 100% UNDERSTANDABLE why
a poster, who might find a silly mistake, will be concerned he's gonna get laughed at --
and then not even post.
We need to have a comfortable place here where we don't challenge folks who may be
concerned that they're going to get pounced on.
How would you feel if you *really* didn't want to disclose you made a silly mistake?
And then someone calls you out for the entire world to see as maybe being a liar.
Let people make mistakes without the fear of getting POUNCED on. Grow up about that.
This is a great resourceful place but we cannot make people feel intimidated and jump
all over them. Otherwise people aint gonna post dudes!
READ BETWEEN THE LINES of someones post and realize:
"Oh I get it, he found something that he feels would be embarrassing, heck I've done that too, I remember when I..."
and not come back and get all accusatory and have multiple people ganging up on a guy
and saying "I don't believe you" and "I second that" - THAT AINT 'FUN' dudes and it
aint adult behavior either.
Read between the lines. Use your adult courteousness. If posters come on here and
you shut them down by accusing them in that kind of 'fun' they aint gonna come back dudes.
Ive seen good boards die, recently one in England, because of one or two instigators
started jumping down people's throats, and then others, their 'lemmings', seeing
the two instigators not being reigned in, lemmings kick in and then normal, adult
courteous people GO ELSEWHERE. In a few months the new postings fell to nothing.
The courteousness DIES throughout the board when it happens.
THAT AINT FUN DUDES. Give people the room to not be perfect. Give people the room
to not broadcast if they think they'll get embarrassed by admitting it.
If you have an honest concern that other readers need to know the TYPICAL story,
then put your DIPLOMACY hat on and say something like "Congratulations, most of the time the real
problem is X."