Topic: A New Twist On The Issue With My Dad And My brother

[bill440cars]

      Well, as it happens, I was outside checking out my Dakota and this old guy (yeah, I DO remember I am getting up there too. LOL!) comes by on a 4wheel offroad job like a Kawasaki or something and I go out to see if he needs help of some kind. So, we get to talking and he lives in the area and used to fish with David. So, he told me he'd read about my Dad passing and said he was sorry to hear that and also said that he was kinda wondering about what happened in our family, as David had told something that he just couldn't buy. It seems that, back when I got my Dad away from the 2 of them, David was telling that my Dad had been, ARE YOU READY FOR THIS, KIDNAPPED!!!!!!!  Yeah, that's what he had been telling others! And even said He thinks I had been the one who did it!    I told the guy that They were trying to put him in a Nursing Home, Take everything He had and put me completely out! But, that my Dad had gotten hold of me and asked me to get him away from THEM, as he wanted nothing to do with them. The guy had already told me he didn't believe what david had told him and then said he was glad that it was more like what he was thinking and then went on to ask if I knew how jan was doing and I told him we had not talked since before they took my Dad to court to try and get guardianship over him and had no idea about jan's condition, other than I had seen an "Oxygen" sign on their door. He then said David was saying she was in poor health and had about a month to live. Of course david lies so much, who knows if that is true or not. May sound bad, but I just don't care. Anyway, I thought you all might like to hear about my Kidnapping my Dad. I have wondered all this time, what kind of tale he was putting out.  Now, I am starting to find out.   

[bill440cars]

  Well, been a little over a month since david's "ignorant remark that "It ain't over yet" and yet, there hasn't not been anything to indicate that there is anything brewing. Still kinda keeping my guard up, but also trying to seriously get into getting things settled around here, since losing my Dad. Trying to get things lined out, so I can get to doing a motorcycle project AND get to where we can get out and meet up with the SOHC4 members in Arkansas, ASAP.

[FunJimmy]

Hey Bill,

Sorry to hear that you have to put up with this BS, when your undoubtedly still grieving the loss of your father. Just keep telling yourself that you rescued (Kidnapped if you prefer) from the abuse your brother was subjecting him to. All that really matters is the peace and love you provided on his final chapter.

Flip your Bro the birdie and move on!
Life's too short to get caught up in the drama.

[bill440cars]

Hey Bill,

Sorry to hear that you have to put up with this BS, when your undoubtedly still grieving the loss of your father. Just keep telling yourself that you rescued (Kidnapped if you prefer) from the abuse your brother was subjecting him to. All that really matters is the peace and love you provided on his final chapter.

Flip your Bro the birdie and move on!
Life's too short to get caught up in the drama.

 
            I hear ya, buddy. At least my Dad doesn't have to been concerned about them any more. Other than seeing him, in passing, now and then, I haven't had the misfortune of having to deal with him lately and haven't seen hide nor hair of his daughter or son since the funeral and they all kept their distance then too. Of course, I alerted the folks at the funeral home, about the situation, in case he (or they) did try to stir things up and they were told that, behave themselves OR they would be removed! Shame you have to do things like that. Been spending a portion of my time, going through the garage/shop, deciding what stays, what goes and what isn't worth anything. I knew my Dad was a pack rat, which I also became!      But, some of the things are really not worth anything. Funny thing is, when I was getting out of my last home, I found things there, that made me think, "Why did I keep THAT!" LOL! Now, the question is, WHY did Dad keep that?    Trying top stay out of any "Drama" too. Thanks for postiong FunJimmy. 

[faux fiddy]

Going through the same sh8 here.

My bankrupt brother was put as trustee back when he had good employment 10 years ago.

He's trying to appease his  boyfriend so there are two spendthrifts in charge.  I told my concerns to the attorney three years ago  so now I think he is going to have problem$ with the accountancy board.

[bill440cars]

  Whatever happened to Family Sticking together and "Doing The Right Thing"? Seems like we have gone from Family, Through Thick And Thin, To "Forget It"!!!!!!!! 

  Seems to ME, that there is a HUGE discrepancy, in the area of Family taking care of one another! I mean, the Parents bring the kid(s) into this world, try to raise them properly and then, when the Parents are old and need help, so many times, the Kids Help THEMSELVES!!!!!!!!!!    Fortunately, not ALL are that way, but ANY that are that way, is TOO Many!!!
 

[faux fiddy]

  Whatever happened to Family Sticking together and "Doing The Right Thing"? Seems like we have gone from Family, Through Thick And Thin, To "Forget It"!!!!!!!! 

  Seems to ME, that there is a HUGE discrepancy, in the area of Family taking care of one another! I mean, the Parents bring the kid(s) into this world, try to raise them properly and then, when the Parents are old and need help, so many times, the Kids Help THEMSELVES!!!!!!!!!!    Fortunately, not ALL are that way, but ANY that are that way, is TOO Many!!!

I think Asians, and Mexicanos are still very family oriented, but it seems like people think it's okay to be nastier to family instead of  common respect you would give to someone you just met on the street.

But then I'm dealing with a couple GQ gays.  The first house my Dad got them in to got foreclosed because they failed to manage their money, but before they got booted the spouse was proud of being the first one on the block with an I-PAD.

[Duke McDukiedook]

Eh, family is a good idea until money gets involved in the mix and then common sense and decency usually goes out the window.
That is why when your parents reach a certain age you need to sit them down and have the talk about wills and power of attorney in case something unexpected happens. It is never a good conversation to have but is necessary to avoid problems down the line.

[bill440cars]

   Yeah, the most part, it seems like the term "Family" has different meanings and depends on whatever situation might be.

     Like, IF someone is messing with someone else's Family Member, the "Family" most likely will defend that one.

            But, if it is something between 2 family members, or more, all hell breaks loose.

           Then, IF it has to do with someone being in bad health and or dying, THEN, it seems to be every family member for themselves ( or near bouts).

          Too many times, I have seen and heard about ONE family member bending over backwards, to take care of an ailing member, just because it should be done and IS done out of love and respect. THEN, the others (who couldn't be bothered) come out of the woodwork and expect to get most everything and actually fight over it. Yeah, Nice!!!!!!!       

[Mo]

Hey man, that really sucks. I hope things work out. I have two sisters, one who I never talk to, and honestly life is better for that!

[bill440cars]

Hey man, that really sucks. I hope things work out. I have two sisters, one who I never talk to, and honestly life is better for that!

      Yes, it does suck! Things have been peaceful here. He stays away and that is fine with me. My Wife Michelle, THOUGHT she could appeal to david's good side, by being thoughtful enough to let him know that Dad had passed. She got a REAL education REAL quick. Talked hateful to her and slammed the door in her face. I tried to tell her how he was, but she didn't REALLY realize, til now. It IS a real shame that Family can't get along, I just don't get it. Thanks for your input here.