Yeah the angle of the dangle and its depth may be in error. I think what we may be running up against is a changing of the guard. New techs coming on board that are younger than our bikes, not giving them the attention needed.
But upon assembly, it should be clear that if you have to manhandle the spokes into the hub, then really bend them against the flange to get it in the rim, you've got the wrong spokes, or they were poorly made.
I laced my most recent within the last year or so. I had to open a few holes in the hubs just a skosh, but other than that they wrapped and went into the rims with barely a whimper.