Mr Breeze I'm sorry to hear of your younger brother, funny how some things remind us and bring things back to the fore...every person should know their limitations, I so agree with that, but it only needs to be told once and with a sincerity of conviction which in a few words youve managed to convey.......we all do things when we are young and not one of us here cannot say we have not done something stupid or have regrets, it would be a lie. Im sure it didnt need 90 odd posts of some pretty harsh things to make this young man feel bad and a newbie at that, sometimes people just want to share everything , even their mistakes.....no matter their motives.....repetitive harsh remarks only makes a young person feel bitter and resentful...and perhaps he just wanted to be a part of this forum....as many older and experienced men hang here....we all need guidance at times in a constructive form. Maybe Im just seeing this in a womans way, which isnt always a bad thing...it creates balance.