the more i re read your posts here,the more im leaning towards a blown head gasket..
reasoning for that is
-plugs on 1 and 2 fouled
-oil leak from cylinder 1 and 2 area
-bacl fire from cylinder 1 and/or 2
-grunts but doesnt go(makes sence,3 and 4 doing all the work,1 and 2 just limp along)
i think you will end up and take the cylinder head off,that way you can
-fix the head gasket
-take a very good look at piston/cylinder 1 and 2
-take a good look at valves on 1 and 2(while your at it 3 and 4 too ofcource)
lets say head gasket blew out in 1 and 2 area,that will result in limping cylinders on that side...
also,all the oil your talking about,might be an indication that theres something wrong with the pistons or rings on 1 and/or2
while you have the head off,it wouldnt hurt(would even be smart)to take the cylinders off aswell,so that you can really inspect the pistons etc...
its really not too big of a job and that way you can really take a good look at all the components..
like,cam,rockers,pistons,rod's etc..
when you got it off,ask a friend or someone that has know how about engines to take a second look for you,just to make sure...
good luck...