Topic: Hey All, After 40yrs, I've Just Gotten My 1st Date! IT WAS A BUST!

[bill440cars]

I'm very happy for you Bill! 

   Thanks man, I've got a very good feeling about this.

[bill440cars]

way to go! it's never too late to pursue happiness. when it's all over (deathbed) no one thinks I wish I would've not tried this or that. if you want something go for it, if it doesn't work out you're no worse off. and better for the experience!

and you never know where you will find love. after about a million failed attempts I have a great girl. not what I expected, she's about 7 yrs. older than me! but simply an amazing human being.

follow your heart, make yourself happy. even if it ends in pain you will not regret it in the long run. all experiences, positive or negative add to our understanding and eventually we can learn what it takes to achieve happiness if we are not afraid to risk those painful ones.

good luck!

btw: I get that it's kinda odd for a 34 yr old to give life advice to a 60 yr old, but it's meant in the best way. it just makes my day to hear something good after listening to horrible news and all the other ills of the world all the time.

           Listen, I don't mind whether you are MY age or 34, it's been 40yrs since I've been in this position and I'm open to input from all.

           I realized about a couple of months ago, that I STILL needed someone in my life and I KNOW that Brenda wouldn't want me to just sit around and stagnate. Thanks for the input, Bill

[bill440cars]

Good Luck there Bill,

Remember, I'm pulling for you. We're all in this together.

           Thanks, I DO appreciate it. And, I appreciate ALL of the support from ALL of you, on anything I have posted here. It REALLY DOES help!

                                Take care, Bill

[pae]

Good on you, Bill. Have a great time and enjoy yourself.

[bill440cars]

Good on you, Bill. Have a great time and enjoy yourself.

        Thanks for that Phil, I sure intend to AND to make sure that SHE enjoys herself too! She's had some stressful times and I hope to give her some pleasure as well.

[Spikeybike]

...... I've got a good feeling about this, because I KNOW this Lady isn't the type to lead a person on. ...... Also, I know that Brenda would approve............ Karla likes her too and
wants me to be happy again!  

Nice !!!   gotta love a guy who makes sure all his bases are covered before he starts running ... 

i wish i had as much forethought sometimes  

                        good luck, have fun , and all the other bla bla bla everyone else has said already (you dirty dawg)

[traveler]

I really happy to hear of this Bill.....as hard as it is...you must soldier on.....I hope you two have a good time together!

What are you going to do if she gets aggressive with you? hehe

~Joe

[bill440cars]

...... I've got a good feeling about this, because I KNOW this Lady isn't the type to lead a person on. ...... Also, I know that Brenda would approve............ Karla likes her too and
wants me to be happy again!  

Nice !!!   gotta love a guy who makes sure all his bases are covered before he starts running ... 

i wish i had as much forethought sometimes  

                        good luck, have fun , and all the other bla bla bla everyone else has said already (you dirty dawg)

  Thank you for that, Spikey. I'm just trying NOT to jump the gun or anything. It's not that I'm not anxious, Just trying to make sure (as best as I can) as to what is going on. I THOUGHT I had something going with that waitress, but that's another story and I kinda got caught up in something that apparently wasn't even there. And, for the record, I haven't always had so much forethought with things. I've been conferring with Karla's Worker, Sarah (who is like a family member and helped me SO much, in July, when Brenda passed away) Sarah's younger and not married and has been giving me pointers. She tried to tell me about the Waitress, but I was SO sure. Sarah is tickled at how things seem to be working out between me and Audry. To be truthful about things, I am prone to be pessimistic about things like this.

[bill440cars]

I really happy to hear of this Bill.....as hard as it is...you must soldier on.....I hope you two have a good time together!

What are you going to do if she gets aggressive with you? hehe

~Joe

  Joe, I'm trying to "soldier on"! Thanks, I'm looking forward to it an she seems to be also.

As far as that last question, She's a Lady and no comment on what ever (if anything that) goes on beyond a standard dinner together.

She's a Very Special Lady, with a Big Heart!    

[fmctm1sw]

Bill, that is great news. Hope all works out for you. Somethings have changed in the past 40 years so a word to the wise:

What's that?  A thimble?  Are you planning on a sewing class?  At any rate, best wishes to you Bill...

[bill440cars]

Bill, that is great news. Hope all works out for you. Somethings have changed in the past 40 years so a word to the wise:

          Thank you Bobby, I really DO appreciate YOUR input. I'm just trying to take things as they come. Plus I am getting SOME guidance from My Daughter Karla's worker ( who is more in tune with the times). This means alot to me and I'm trying very hard not to mess up.
(And I'm Not working toward anything at the present, except a good relationship and what ever happens after that, happens. So, I don't need your little friend.

                    Thanks Bobby, Hope you are doing well, Bill

[lordmoonpie]

Great news Bill - go get 'em Tiger! 
Just go with the intention of enjoying yourselves and everything else is a bonus. Fingers crossed for ya!

[bill440cars]

Great news Bill - go get 'em Tiger! 
Just go with the intention of enjoying yourselves and everything else is a bonus. Fingers crossed for ya!

  Thanks for that Simon, I'm just looking for someone to share and enjoy the rest of my life with and if ALL goes well, I will have been very fortunate. I don't really know if this will go THAT far or not, but she IS a Special Lady and I will feel good if we are just really good friends. I have to say that I WILL be somewhat disappointed, but I could live with things at that level, but I'm hopeful for more.

            Good to have your input Simon, Take care, Bill

            Also, Hope YOU are still on the mend and can get back in the swing of things soon, Bill

[Alan F.]

They make fuel system additives for that now

Best wishes!

mystic_1

              Yeah, but that might be like dropping a 426 Hemi into a stock Dodge Neon!

Yes, it's been done, but not on the first date.....

Take it easy Bill and just be the man you've become, remembering all of the influencences that have made you who you are.
It's tough to slip up in you're not compensating or pretending to be something you're not.
Oh, and women get nervous too, don't forget that part.
Good luck Bill!  Spring must be in the air......

[bill440cars]

   Thanks for that Alan, I should have known that the Hemi in a Neon, had been done. What WAS I thinking?

   Listen guys, if I come off offensive in any way, on this matter, it's just that I'm just nervous because of the time lapse (seems like centuries), since I've been in this position. And the Lady I am hoping to completely win over, is a REALLY special Lady, with whom my initial intentions are to just get to know her better (already know her some, as it is) and just let nature take it's course. AND, if it goes far enough for us to get married, I'll be sending off Skyrockets that can be seen as far away as the Canada, U.K., Australia, Neatherlands and everywhere else ANY of you are located.

   When I suddenly became a single man again, I figured that I would just pick myself up and get back to taking care of business (my Daughter Karla, my Dad and Joey, the young man I work with). I hated to have lost Brenda, but I figured that I would devote my time to what was left and go on. Well, it didn't take long to realize that I STILL needed a Companion in my life. Sometimes Life can be so confusing and hard to see what you need to do. I think I'm at the point that I can move on and I am concerned about drifting back to being so emotional about what happened. There have been times, in the last few months, that I have had to battle myself to be able to move on and stop looking back. I knew full well what had happened and that things were NEVER going to be the same again. But yet, it seemed like my mind was thinking differently and if I let somethings go, like some of the bills that she used to take care of, She would come back and get things back in order. I never really got into this on here because I didn't want to seem like a total nut case. But now, I feel like I am on my way to getting things back in order and, if things work out with Audry. I am definitely going to be One Happy Camper! And, IF things don't go as far as I would like, I feel I am at (or close to) the point where I can handle that too!

        I want to thankl ALL of you for your patience AND support.
   

[pae]

Listen guys, if I come off offensive in any way...

Crikey Bill, you've never done that before, so don't go worrying about that. But, yeah, if you slip up and get all offensive on us I guess we'll just give a bit. Can't imagine it myself though.

Good luck to both of you for a great time, and let's see where it takes you.

regards and best wishes, Phil

[bill440cars]

Listen guys, if I come off offensive in any way...

Crikey Bill, you've never done that before, so don't go worrying about that. But, yeah, if you slip up and get all offensive on us I guess we'll just give a bit. Can't imagine it myself though.

Good luck to both of you for a great time, and let's see where it takes you.

regards and best wishes, Phil

           Thanks Phil, but thing is, sometimes my "Dutch heritage" gets the best of me, being Hard Headed and all. I've had to apologize a few times for not realizing exactly what was said an/or I've not been really clear with MY wording as well. In most all cases (except for one), I've been able to clear things up without any problem. Had one though, that didn't really WANT to clear it up and there it is.

        Yeah, I'm sure looking forward to this comning Saturday evening.
My head is spinning, wanting to say the right things and all. At least she knows what I've been through and has a level head about things. Time will tell.
   

[Don R]

Calm, and cool, not too excited.

[bill440cars]

Calm, and cool, not too excited.

         Yeah, I know, but tell my Heart that!

         

[BeSeeingYou]

Teeth brushed, clean underwear?  Yer ready to go.

[bill440cars]

Teeth brushed, clean underwear?  Yer ready to go.

           Yep and yep! All right! Come on Saturday Night!

[mick7504]

We'll be letting off sky rockets here in Oz for you too Bill. 
Best wishes and as the old saying goes - "All good things come to those who wait."
Mick 

[bill440cars]

We'll be letting off sky rockets here in Oz for you too Bill. 
Best wishes and as the old saying goes - "All good things come to those who wait."
Mick 

       Thank you for that, Mick. If ALL goes well, (inside) I'll be setting off some Sky Rockets of my own.

[demon78]

Hey Bill, just be the suave, debonair and experienced dude we know you are. Luck.
Bill the demon.

[bill440cars]

Hey Bill, just be the suave, debonair and experienced dude we know you are. Luck.
Bill the demon.

    Thank you for the kind words Bill, not sure I deserve them, but I do try. I'm feeling like the young kid getting ready for his first date.

Also, I HAVE to watch myself or I'll try to speed things along. Got to go with the flow and let Nature take it's course.


     Have to tell you all, when I was dating Brenda (so many years ago), we were out one night and (I have no idea why but) I called her Barbara! You talk about World War III, IV and V!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I thought I'd NEVER get her past that goof up!!!!  But fortunately, I did. I can promise you that it NEVER hapened again AND we never talked about it again either!


               Take care all and Thanks for your support, Bill