I'd say I'm definately leading her down the rat path, but she is playing along real well! Actually, she likes the ratty look too, but only because she is so used to it after being around me over the years. Plus, I ride the honda as much as she does and there ain't no way I'm getting on a shiny bike!
As for the hat, it's got a chin strap, rope thingy that she cinches up. We got that hat up in Sturgis last year. She only wears it when we're puttin' around town. As a rule, she lets it hang over on her back and the helmet goes on. It's bad enough when us macho show off types that have been riding forever go helmetless, definately not a good idea for a novice to go without, even when just cruising.