Ok, mechanically I think I understand how the start button works, so I don't think I need an off switch for the lights if my only concern is having enou power for the starter.
You're not getting it. The battery will supply all the amps needed to run both the lights and the lighting. What happens during high current draws is the voltage sags, and the ignition relies on voltage levels to make strong spark.
Other then that, I've been basing my wiring off very simplified wiring diagrams like the one at Oregonmotorcycleparts.com/images/OMP_SOHC_VRREM4_Wiring_Diagram.jpg
The stock switch you have does not really work with this scheme. And, your solenoid was wired differently when stock. One side of the solenoid was grounded via the neutral switch or the clutch switch and the starter button supplied power to the other side. The diagram you've chosen doesn't work with this scheme. You are going to have a real bastard wiring scheme if you continue on present path, and in a couple years no one including you will remember what is wired to what during an eventual repair. It can be made to work, but you are going to have to learn a lot more about electricity and how switches and electrical devices function. Or, have someone else wire the bike of your dreams, imo.
And none of them show the power for the lights running through the start button. But it makes sense. I'll run the lights using the Black/Red with a fuse between.
The stock wiring system powers only the headlight from the starter switch, not all lighting. And the starter switch routes power to the solenoid, not ground , as shown in your selected diagram.
You might be better off with an earlier right control module from a 72-75 CB, as that works directly with the wire diagram you've selected, and they have a lighting switch incorporated.