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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #25 on: July 19, 2014, 06:13:59 PM »
When I bought the 76F my wife was there and grumpy. One day I got it running and I took her for a ride. She asked where did we get this bike? She was there when I bought the K0. One day I got it running and I took her for a ride on it. Half way to dinner she asked, where did we get this bike?
 Moral of the story, put them on and if she notices, you traded for them.
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #26 on: July 20, 2014, 03:24:06 AM »
Just put em on, Vern.  I'm guessing you pulled one of my tricks and hid the money... 8)


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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #27 on: July 20, 2014, 04:00:39 AM »
My experience, and I've had a bit, the wife only notices when I get a new bike. doesn't really notice when I change something on a bike. While she does constantly ask why I need another bike, I just tell her that's my hobby, not going out drinking, not expensive cars, etc. Then I ask her if she really just needed that ring she just bought. That usually ends the conversation.

I don't tell and if she asks, just tell her you saved a boat load of money buying used parts.
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #28 on: July 20, 2014, 04:35:06 AM »
Have you got the pipes already Vern. If so get them bad boys put on and let see some pics of Pandoras new look 8) What forum member hooked you up with a set of 341's? I was just like you Vern, when I got my 750K6 in 2009 it had a Mac 4to1 by PO. I was able to get decent #1,3, and 4 pipes from member Kyle(chewbacca) But it wasn't until  Jan 2014 that I got the rare NOS 341 #2 pipe. Was shipped in from Australia. Forum member Stev-o knew I had be searching for one for a while and he sent me a PM informing me of this pipe on ebay and I jump on it. Thanks Steve ;) 
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #29 on: July 20, 2014, 05:52:11 AM »
Dhall, I cant' "out" the forum member just yet, but he is well known here. Pipes are on their way and should be installed by Wednesday, of course I'll post pics! And you guys are right, I'm not saying anything and if she does notice, well some nut our there wanted my crappy 4 into 2 and a little cash to close the deal. That's my story and I'm stickin to it!

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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #30 on: July 20, 2014, 06:45:03 AM »
Hey Vern no problem that's between you and the other member. Got my gut feeling but doesn't matter one way or another just as long as your getting a good set of 341's to put on your CB750. Can't wait to see them on your bike.

 After cleaning years of crud and dirt off the original 341's that came on the K4 I bought the pipes look just about brand new. So I'm pretty stoked about that.
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #31 on: July 20, 2014, 07:37:47 AM »
 That's my story and I'm stickin to it!
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #32 on: July 20, 2014, 07:42:47 AM »
If I do tell her, I'm fudging on the price!
Ha! There is always a 'wife' price, and the real price you pay. Don't give away out guy secrets. If my wife ever read my forum posts I would be in HUGE trouble.
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #33 on: July 20, 2014, 07:49:24 AM »
Good luck Vern with the 4-into-4's your gonna love 'em !... Post a pic when you can ...
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #34 on: July 20, 2014, 07:59:31 AM »
If I do tell her, I'm fudging on the price!
Ha! There is always a 'wife' price, and the real price you pay. Don't give away out guy secrets. If my wife ever read my forum posts I would be in HUGE trouble.

Haha, I'm pretty sure a good amount of us here would be in trouble if they knew! Thanks Spanner1, I know I wil!


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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #35 on: July 20, 2014, 11:31:16 AM »
If your wife were like mine you'd already be busted. She checks in and reads the forum too! Especially since Sam got hurt, she's met Sam and is genuinely concerned for his well being. Plus she can monitor my antics!

Like you say though, I could be out boozing it up instead of being close to home...

Lucky man.

My wife me gives only 50 eur pocket money a week.
So I akways have to ask her.
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #36 on: July 20, 2014, 12:39:40 PM »
Dhall, I cant' "out" the forum member just yet, but he is well known here.....
I bet its Nick  ;D

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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #37 on: July 20, 2014, 12:46:42 PM »
Dhall, I cant' "out" the forum member just yet, but he is well known here.....
I bet its Nick  ;D

I'll take that bet.  $1?
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #38 on: July 20, 2014, 03:43:08 PM »
Hahaha. This forum is great. This thread gave me a good laugh.  Whenever I buy things for my bike my girlfriend jokingly says "whatever you spend on your bike you spend on me."

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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #39 on: July 20, 2014, 03:50:08 PM »
Hahaha. This forum is great. This thread gave me a good laugh.  Whenever I buy things for my bike my girlfriend jokingly says "whatever you spend on your bike you spend on me."

 Make sure you DON'T marry her if you want to keep on laughing mister!

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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #40 on: July 20, 2014, 06:20:09 PM »
Interesting thread.
In my own case, my X would have had a cow and a half.  Might be part of the reason why she's my X!

My current one is of the opinion that what I do with my money is my business and what she does with hers is her business, as long as both of us meet our share of the monthly's.

I don't question it when boxes show up with her name on them and she doesn't question boxes with my name on them.  In fact, it was at her suggestion that I started restoring my K6 after sitting in the garage for the last 26 years.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.  And I hope for the best for you.

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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #41 on: July 20, 2014, 07:33:52 PM »
If your wife were like mine you'd already be busted. She checks in and reads the forum too! Especially since Sam got hurt, she's met Sam and is genuinely concerned for his well being. Plus she can monitor my antics!

Like you say though, I could be out boozing it up instead of being close to home...

Lucky man.

My wife me gives only 50 eur pocket money a week.
So I akways have to ask her.

That's a pretty cool arrangement Pinback, she works and you don't!
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #42 on: July 20, 2014, 07:41:13 PM »
Interesting thread.
In my own case, my X would have had a cow and a half.  Might be part of the reason why she's my X!

My current one is of the opinion that what I do with my money is my business and what she does with hers is her business, as long as both of us meet our share of the monthly's.

I don't question it when boxes show up with her name on them and she doesn't question boxes with my name on them.  In fact, it was at her suggestion that I started restoring my K6 after sitting in the garage for the last 26 years.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.  And I hope for the best for you.

Charlie

That was my arrangement too Charlie. She didn't want me telling her how to spend her money any more than she wanted me telling her how to spend my money! I came away with everything I had going in. Split everything according to law. Marital property 50/50. She spent ALL her income $100K+ and I started working 75% less and we came out even.  ;) After 15 years she got her personal possessions, half a house, her car and her car payments and the judge asked ME why I didn't want child support period. It's all in the planning and staying on top of THE GAME. Hang in there Vern. I have an extra room. Or 3 since I have the house.

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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #43 on: July 20, 2014, 10:21:03 PM »
 My deal is wierd, if it's for the dragster, cool. If it's for anything else, not so much. You just gotta play it by ear. Women are all different, and I mean different than they were yesterday too.  Tomorrow it might be OK. I always mention the value factor, it's worth more. She says but you've never sold one. Not true, I sold my cb750 K4 30 years ago. and my cb500 before that.
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #44 on: July 21, 2014, 04:04:16 AM »
Jerry, I have my bags packed by the garage door, thanks :-)!

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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #45 on: July 21, 2014, 04:37:34 AM »
If your wife were like mine you'd already be busted. She checks in and reads the forum too! Especially since Sam got hurt, she's met Sam and is genuinely concerned for his well being. Plus she can monitor my antics!

Like you say though, I could be out boozing it up instead of being close to home...

Lucky man.

My wife me gives only 50 eur pocket money a week.
So I akways have to ask her.

That's a pretty cool arrangement Pinback, she works and you don't!

I wish it was like this.
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #46 on: July 22, 2014, 08:57:08 PM »
My wife  doesn't ask me if I'm selling any of them anymore. She considers them dangerous but is able to understand the obsession (now). You must always be on your game to train a woman correctly about YOUR motorcylces. never show weakness, show enthusiasm  that they are interested in your machine, tell her EVERYTHING that you know about it , what you love about it, what you don't like about it, what you are going to change about it, how this change will effect the overall machine...... do this in one continuous sentence with no breaks, no interruptions, ....after hearing something like that , if done correctly ,she'll be late for that reality show on the TV in the other room and will leave you in the garage as fast as she possibly can. Don't forget to blow her a kiss as she's heading for the door. That way she'll know that you care  and her  jealousy for the machine will diminish over time. 
 When I'm out working on bikes and someone calls , she says "He's with his mistresses, I'll go out and get him".  I stopped answering the phone in the shop , whatever it is can't be as important as what I'm doing to a bike at the time so , no answering random phone calls anymore for me.
  If my wife asks what's in the box , I'll show her, explain how it works, the condition of the last one compared to the new one ,how much better this one is , and how happy you are about it .... a few times doing that and she won't ask you the next time a box shows up at the door.
   Cost? How can you put a price on it? Are you kidding? This is an intricate part of the total machine , and  without it, the entire machine ( this investment) would be worthless. Then you can tell her how much it costs but you got a great deal because usually that part is so much more...I couldn't believe it either (look excited) Don't forget to blow her a kiss as she's backing out the door. Everyone will feel better about the whole thing.
Well, now you know some of the tricks , look serious, don't be cross, smile when appropriate , make sure she feels like she's an important part of your life and remember ....She needs to feel that  she is more important than your motorcycle... don't forget to blow her a kiss (or equal) .And one day this stuff won't be an issue, it'll seem so natural and you'll both feel better about it. Good luck.

 
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #47 on: July 22, 2014, 10:14:54 PM »
Very good points! Overwhelm her with information and she'll eventually quit asking cause she doesn't have a clue about anything other than money. They do not wish to appear stupid  ;)

Oh yeah, after you blow her those kisses, roll her over when you go to bed at 3am. She probably won't remember that either but you'll feel better that you've taken care of her primal need. Just be as quiet as possible because she'll need to go to work in a few hours. You must be sensitive and considerate to her. 
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #48 on: July 22, 2014, 11:42:58 PM »
Are your pipes nice Vern? I know where you live and id like nicer pipes! Yes this is blackmail but you started this! ... ;D Ill be up there 10/9 to help propagate mailed exhausts to (Atlanta member??) to head to Barber! Dou you have the right mounts? Crush washers? Blame it on me!! Im fine with it! No ones getting hurt!
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Re: Don't ask, don't tell or full disclosure? Should I tell her or not?
« Reply #49 on: July 23, 2014, 02:07:02 AM »
If she says anything just tell her you could've spent the money at the strip club, she'll most likely stop asking about things and leave you alone in the garage lol.
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