I took care of the oil pan today. A few findings:
1. The aftermarket gasket was seated properly and was not damaged. However, the gasket was barely proud of the channel it rests in on the oil pan. There really wasn't much gasket to "squish" up against the mating surface. I expected the Honda gasket would be thicker.
2. The aftermarket gasket was identical to the NOS Honda gasket. I measured thickness with my calipers and both were 3mm if I remember correctly.
3. The drain plug was fine. I must have been mistaken above and not replace the crush washer when I changed the oil last time, so I replaced it this time. I think the wrong size crush washer had been used previously (or it really spread out from being torqued down), though I am confident this was not leaking.
4. I lightly sanded the mating surfaces of the oil pan and the bottom of the engine to make sure there were no burrs or anything that could interfere. Everything was fine.
5. There was no warping or cracking to the oil pan.
6. I cleaned everything up, put in the NOS Honda gasket and applied a thin coat of Permatex ultrablack on top of the gasket.
7. I hand tightened all the screws, waited an hour and then lightly torqued everything down in a cross-pattern. There was a the smallest bit of seepage of the Permatex in a few places.
Monday I will refill with oil and see if she holds. If I still have an oil leak, it must be coming from somewhere else because everything with the oil pan seems to be at 100%.