I use a 1/2 to 3/8 adapter, then I have a 3/8 socket that fits onto the 8mm allen with it's short angle cut off. I have electrical tape holding the allen "bit" I made to the dedicated 8mm socket. I've been using it for many years. I have 2 full sets of allen sockets - both in SAE and metric, but these aren't long enough to reach the allen heads - thus the cut-off wheel was put to use to make the 3" bit.
On the air wrench, I don't have a clue. It sounds reasonable that they would mandate the use of hardened "impact" sockets. I'd guess that's what you're experiencing. Mine is a cheap one through Harbor Freight and does a good job for me.
Regards,
Gordon