Paul, we share you sadness, if only just a bit of all that you bear. I will be on my knees praying for your sister, you and the rest of your family. Know that in these hardest of times, there are folks here calling upon God to comfort all of you. We wish we could be with you in person -- quietly standing by. We don't have the answers, but we call upon the One who does.
"When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;
And through the rivers, they will not overflow you
When you walk through the fire, you will not be scorched,
Nor will the flame burn you. "
Isaiah 43:2