Topic: son in law with ATROCIOUS table manners

[fuzzybutt]

ok, everyone i know has belched or farted at the table while eating, no bog deal most normal folks excuse themselves. we went to dinner tonight at the longhorn steakhouse, a pretty nice and kind of pricey resturant, though what i'm about to tell you about isnt acceptable ANYWHERE. justin, my step duaghters boyfriend and father of my granddaughter decided to try a different appetizer calle firecracker shrimp. he took a bite of it. now what would anyone with an iq of 6 or more do at this point if they didnt like the food? man up and swallow the bite or if you can do it discretely and politely, put the bite of food into a napkin right?  this disgusting #$%* spit the food out onto the table! not just let it drop out of his mouth but SPIT it at high velocity! katie, my wife and i all looked at him and he said "what? i didnt like it!" i looked at him, got up and left the damn table. it takes alot to put me off my food (as you can tell by my spherical shape) if it was in my house and not in public i would have kicked the living #$%* out of this guy. he's 25, has several ASE certifications and isnt a booksmarts dummy but this behavior has me baffled. it wasnt his upbringing as his mother (a looney tune in her own right) even gets after him for this stuff. now, i told my wife i refuse to EVER go out and eat in public with this PIG ever again and guess what? it's all been made out to be MY damned fault!.   ok i needed to vent/rant which is better than me going and kicking justins ass up and down the sidewalk.

[tramp]

obviously that was one hot meal
i'll bet that was a kodak moment

[Frankenkit]

who knows?  I know a reasonably intelligent guy whose parents are IRS agents.  He has this strange urge to pee ALL OVER the bathroom AT WORK.  The floor, all over the toilet, etc etc...

(I understand the kink-in-the-hose principle, but most people with an iota of decency clean up after themselves)
WTF?

[fuzzybutt]

ya know, my wife and daughter have turned it all around too so that I'M the bad guy in this situation, which just makes me even more pissed off at justin

[Duke McDukiedook]

He's a boob, the IRS kid is a boob too. This world really is becoming like Idiocracy. 
What would you expect from a bastard son of tax thugs though? Civility?
Me thinks not.

[Ecosse]

i don't understand it but i've seen it before. with all respect to your wife and daughter i think some people rather spin it onto the one person they know they can do so without risk. rather than face socially irresponsible actions people look the other way. guys like this thrive on that prospect.

what this loser did is unacceptable, period. you acted imo as any self respecting person would. jerk face acted like a ill mannered child. ask the women what they would say if you had done what he had?

i see odd double standards like this often. like when a bully gets put in place when harassing someone. often it's the 'hero' who gets reprimanded.

we wonder why society is in the toilet? here ya go. you're in the right fuzz.

[heffay]

perhaps he's never tasted such a foul taste... i know that i've done ridiculous things as response. 

he's also a dumbass kid trying to impress a girl... give him a break for trying... whatever break that is, i'll leave up to you.   

[Steve F]

Hell, if he went to China, he'd be doing that to ALL the food.  I said to my wife "ever wonder why all the Chinese are so skinny?  Even THEY don't like the food!" 

[Ecosse]

i've had 3000^o food in my mouth and not projectile spit it out.

and no girl i keep company with would be too impressed by that.

[heffay]

i've had 3000^o food in my mouth and not projectile spit it out.

and no girl i keep company with would be too impressed by that.

me neither!  i'm very polite and i keep polite company, as well... right gordon!   

[bender01]

The Long Horn down town? That place is busy and the tables are packed right up into the booths. Im suprised the crammed table next to you didnt split. As busy as that place is it wasnt (bad/foul) just hot.Ive been in restaurants for 22 years. I hadnt heard that one til now. You could,ve rinsed his mouth out in the Catawba river. Maybe at the family reunion . I hate a ruined dining experience as i rarely get on the other side of the line.

[bill440cars]

      Fuzzy, no way were you in the wrong! No possible way!

[fuzzybutt]

and the thing is theyre not letting it go, about how i reacted. this may be the final straw that broke the proverbial camels back. i wish i had money coming in of my own right now. if i did i'd be gone in a heartbeat. i DID ask what they would do if i did the same thing and both said theyd smack the hell out of me. i'm thinking that my days of being a doormat will be over as soon as i get my disability approved, however long it takes. unfortunately i'll also have to find a place that will allow me to have 4 or 5 cats.

[Really?]

Fuzzy, I think you were right in your actions.  I did have good laugh at your initial post though.  Still chuckling as I am writing this.  I was seeing it happen as I was reading it.

[fuzzybutt]

fortunately I was brought up to have good manners, that is all that saved him from getting his ass kicked right there in the resturant. he also is the reason i refuse to cook if theyre eating at the house anymore. i work REALLY hard on my meals when i cook. i take great pride in my recipies, when dumbass goes and starts dumping salt and pepper or even worse ketchup on food withut even tasting it i just see red. and again it's MY fault not his.

[Duke McDukiedook]

Only one solution to problem: Death, by buddah buddah!! 

[Demon67]

Yeah Fuzzy, I every once in a while get that and use the same response, what would happen if I did that and am told that that I would be sanctioned, so then I point out if that's the case why wouldn't I get the same considerations and everyone goes silent at that. For me it came to a head in Portugal in the Lisbon airport, we were attending my wife's nieces wedding and my brother in law needled me I ignored him any how he snapped my suspenders from behind and I snapped, turned around and drifted him just about as hard as I could in the upper arm and said if he did that again the next one would be in his head and harder. He left me alone after that and then whined to every one who would listen "did you see that" the bruise apparently extended from his shoulder down to his elbow when it came out and lasted for better than a week. So know when I demand equal consideration or the other person has to act decently they listen and don't hassle me, I find that its a pity that you have to demand equal rights from your family, and do something that you wouldn't normally do particularly seeing I've been married so long. But so it goes.
Bill the demon.

[kirkn]

I guess I'm still missing something...

Young man spits his food across the table, you get upset and walk out.  You continue to be upset by guys unrepentant table manners.

Others are angry at YOU, saying you were in the wrong.

Same others admit that they'd slap the hell out of you if YOU did it, but they're STILL giving you a hard time?

And you're using it to start talking DIVORCE??

Sheesh - talk about ALL of you making a mountain out of a molehill...    And you 'see red' because he puts ketchup on your cooking?  Geez - get over it!

[Ecosse]

You're joking, right?

Have you considered there might be more going on among the family than just this latest incident? I seem to have caught the part about Fuzzy not wanting to be a door mat... the whole straw and camel's back part was a clue as well.

Also, some people still see the value in manners.



Sorry if I missed a joke in there... I'm still on my first cup of java... and crotchety. 

[Inkscars]

Hey Fuzzbutt, Here's my two cents even though it's worth about a peso.

First I'll give you my thoughts on your step-daughters situation. I'm going to guess that she is a couple of years younger than the ASE dipsh1t. I can tell you from experience that just because he had enough attention span to fall asleep in class, and then actually use the textbook to pass the tests, DOES NOT make him boy genius. I've dated a couple of them, only the most recent has any manners and intelligence. So, that said, they shack up, produce a kid, she loves him because he's the daddy, and your wife doesn't mind him because he helped produce a beautiful grandchild.

 

It happens alot.

Now, I'm guessing there's already some ill feelings towards this schmuck because he mistreated, degraded, or just downright doesn't treat the stepkid right, and you had to hear the wife complain about it for so long you just don't like him.

As for the cooking thing, f*ck it. You can't help people with bad taste buds. My ex (ASE certified) wouldn't touch a vegetable unless it was deep fried actually, he pretty much didn't like anything unless it was doused in cream sauce or deep fried.

Divorce? Over this? You can do better than that. Either tell us what's really on your mind, or if that's really it, take a step back and think about which cat you can part with if you have to move into an apartment. Sometimes, we have to suck it up and do what we can to make sh1t work, even though that's what it is, SH1T.

Good luck. I know you'll figure it all out. 

(edit: this just rings too much of a bell with a girl I used to knows family, if i'm wrong, I'm wrong)

[Steve F]

ya know, my wife and daughter have turned it all around too so that I'M the bad guy in this situation, which just makes me even more pissed off at justin

His truck hasnt ever given him any problems before or since then, but now my wife is driving around in what used to be my '66 Stratocaster.
  

'66 Stratocaster.....wow do you run antique plates on that?

[heffay]

i work REALLY hard on my meals when i cook. i take great pride in my recipies, when dumbass goes and starts dumping salt and pepper or even worse ketchup on food withut even tasting it i just see red. and again it's MY fault not his.

yes... that one would be your fault... unless you are a prize winning gourmet cook, you don't get that privilege.  people have their own tastes and habits, and you should respect that.

now, spitting out food at any table is uncalled for.

and divorce talk is uncalled for too, in my opinion... its not a lease that you signed... it is a bond of love, supposedly.  now, go love your wife and stop hatin on the kid.      love conquers all you pussy man!   

[Frankenkit]

this may be the final straw that broke the proverbial camels back. i wish i had money coming in of my own right now. if i did i'd be gone in a heartbeat. i DID ask what they would do if i did the same thing and both said theyd smack the hell out of me. i'm thinking that my days of being a doormat will be over as soon as i get my disability approved, however long it takes.

I'm sensing a helluva lot more going on than just the tasteless son-in-law and the most recent development.  No one, unless they're really thin-skinned, feels like a total doormat over a single incident.  Fuzzy's private life is his private life and we don't need to ask questions about why he feels like he's getting walked all over.  This is first and foremost about the doofus son-in-law.

Sorry Fuzz.  I'm with Ink and Fishhead in that step parents (and parents-inlaw) are totally at the mercy of their (or other peoples') kids' bad taste.

[upperlake04]

Fuzzy's private life is his private life and we don't need to ask questions about why he feels like he's getting walked all over. 

  Fuzzy wouldn't air his personal woes on the internet if he didn't want them public. There are also write-in help columns in every newspaper for advice in these matters.

[heffay]

i think kit's point was that WE should not pry... if he wants to let us in, great, but that is HIS choice.