I'm really only good for the anti-seize portion of your question. Zinc is going to be your best bet for a steel (stainless?) to aluminum connection. I bought a pint size container, that will last me forever, from an aircraft vendor. PM me if you want the details on that and I'll dig through some history to find it for you.
I don't have experience putting together motors, but am in the process of my first rebuild. There is mixed views on sealant due to all of the oil galleries that have the potential to be plugged if overzealous during application. I've read that the head gasket is designed to go on dry. IIRC, they will be impregnated with some oil during startup, swelling the gasket and sealing off any imperfections. Nevertheless, you'll find that many still have certain ways of doing it, some with copper sprays, others with sealant goo and yet others who assemble the whole engine dry.
Best of luck. If I come across any info I'll be sure to pass it along.