Second, Gordon - I don't know you, but you seem like a pretty cool guy and I think that you and Starkmojo would probably get along well. You both seem like great dads who take your responsibilities seriously, yet like to have fun. You are both smart guys and honestly you are probably more alike than you care to admit. (Stubborn!)
Third, I will say that Starkmojo is one of the most stand up guys I know. He's an amazing dad with a wonderful teenage son and I've seen him treat his lady friends (romantically involved or not) with the utmost respect and consideration. He is a great friend and he will give you the shirt off his back. I can't give him enough props. I think that the reason he takes this #$%* so seriously is that he really truly respects women a great deal.
Thanks, Coldright
I have no doubt we probably would get along just great in person. Subtle, nonverbal cues are vastly underrated in face-to-face communication, and are non-existent in online discussions. I stated my view on the situation that obviously came across to Stark as being judgmental of anybody who happens to be in that situation, which is not what I intended. He took it personally, which I can completely understand, and I did not respond in a manner that took that into consideration.
Starkmojo,
I took a defensive position to your offense at what I said, which was not the right thing to do. It was an honorable thing to stand up for your position, and I respect you for that. I have no ill feelings toward anybody in the situation this girl has found herself in, I was simply stating that I have no sympathy for her situation. Since she and her boyfriend chose to air it all out on the internet, I don't think just expressing a lack of sympathy is such a bad thing, but it obviously came across that way.
Any disdain I may have expressed stems entirely from the decision these two made to put their problems on a public forum. Everybody, including myself and my family has problems, but not everybody chooses to let the entire world in on them.
I won't ever apologize for my opinions or my feelings, but I do apologize for my behavior in defending them toward you. I should have been more compassionate. I hope that future interactions between us can be of a much friendlier nature.
As a side note: The name "Honest Prick" was bestowed upon me by a friend and fellow sohc4-er, in a half joking, half serious kind of way. I chose to keep and display it mainly as a reminder to myself that not everybody, including myself, appreciates blunt honesty at all times. I guess I should heed my own warning more often.
Gordon
"Honest Prick"
