damn bill, would the loan of a second small car help you at all? my saturn is super high miles but solid, reliable with working a/c with the bike all but done i can do without the car for a while till you get this mess worked out.
fuzzy, forgive me for not responding to this earlier, I didn't mean to neglect your post.
Thank you for your kind offer, I'm hoping to get things squared away here before long, so that I can get my Dad's van back and be able to use it while my Dad is out of pocket (so to speak). I have to see if the Rehab/Nursing Home has any projected release date for my Dad. He and I both are looking forward to him being released from there. Now,
IF it looks like he's going to need to be in a place like that, I'm going to try to get him to check out a couple of places up here where we live, that look to be really nice places. He's resigned to the fact that he could at some time, need to be in a place like that and I think it's because he knows that I'm not having him in one, unless there is no other way! But, from what I've seen, he seems to be coming along quite well.
Even if he can't drive himself, we'll make sure that he gets to where he needs (or wants) to go and do it without taking anything away from him, dignity wise! I can't say that about my brother and his wife, they can't get away from
FISHING long enough to do much with my Dad. Kinda hard to be very outgoing and very alert, if you only see someone at lunch time, when you are picked up for appointments (which you don't find out until just before you are to leave) or to bring you the food (improperly prepared and arranged on a plate with foil over it and placed in the freezer until you are ready to warm it up and try to eat it) that you are supposed to eat.
Until now, my Dad's everyday life consisted of: Getting up around 9AM, breakfast (Malt- O-Meal or something similar), watch TV or play solitare on his computer (he has no desire to go online), be picked up for lunch, eat lunch out, come home, watch TV or play solitare on his computer, decide if he wants to try to eat one of those "Plate lunches" for supper, watch TV or play solitare on his computer go to bed at 10PM and start all over again the next day!
The biggest difference was Wed. night was Church and Sunday was Church as well. No conversation, nobody just visiting, NOTHING!!!! The times I've been able to go down, he doesn't take long to warm up and do very well with conversation and seems to really liven up. I have to tell you that there were sometimes, when I was leaving there, he would just stand there at the door and had a look like his life was leaving.
It really killed me to have to leave him there like that.
It doesn't really take much to give him pleasure, you just have to take a little time and that's all. He seems to be holding up pretty good now, cause I think he knows that I'm managing to be there off and on and trying to take care of getting his affairs in order.
